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too young to be a mother

Tue, 12/20/2011 - 05:18 -- Bee

Last night I went to an industry party, which means I spent the entire evening dodging strangers.

Why? Because I can predict exactly when it will happen, and what will solicit the remark. I make great efforts to steer the conversation elsewhere, but tedious verbal gymnastics only delay the inevitable:

"You look too young to be a mother."

Sometimes this is a compliment, or a pickup line. But more commonly the sentiment is accompanied by crossed arms, puzzlement, dismay, and often, extremely rude questions.

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hate mail, idealism, and the right to choose

Tue, 08/02/2011 - 08:46 -- Bee

Hate mail is a routine and perplexing part of my life. Perk of the job?

Anyway, the best so far today is related to Girl-Mom:

This Web site almost had my passionate inquiry until I read you executed ‘pro-choice’ rationale. Too bad. Which teen moms are pro-choice, anyway? I’d imagine most would have aborted their children before having to endure teenage motherhood.

Huh. Damned if you do, damned if you don't... this is a really typical reaction. And yet another example of why I think that the site is so important.

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say no to discrimination

Sun, 07/31/2011 - 03:40 -- Bee

Last week I read an article detailing the fact that an African-American teenage mother, Kymberly Wimberley, earned the highest GPA in her class at Arkansas' McGehee School District.

But this young woman was forced by the school district to share the honor with a white student. She responded by filing a lawsuit alleging that this was unlawful discrimination, based on the fact that she was a black teenage mother.

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choices, pastry, and Paris

Sun, 07/10/2011 - 04:20 -- Bee

The other day I was wandering around Paris with my daughter in search of the perfect patisserie.

We were talking about completely random topics when she suddenly erupted in rage over a passing implication that she might one day have a baby of her own.

"I will never have children! I don't know why everyone keeps telling me I will!"

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immigration, mobility, hypocrisy

Wed, 04/06/2011 - 21:00 -- Bee

The UK Government has announced a new social mobility strategy.

Nick Clegg, David Cameron and pals have made public statements condemning the "who you know" culture that gives preferential access to educational opportunities and jobs based on social connections. They say that under this government everyone should get a "fair chance."

The initiative is fascinating, not least because Clegg, Cameron, Osborne and associates were all privately and expensively educated. They are, one and all, people who obtained internships and career placements through family connections.

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Metaphysical

Tue, 02/01/2011 - 21:00 -- Bee

Marisa is a good friend, dependable, steady, perceptive, patient. She is the secular equivalent of a godparent to my children, the executor of my estate, an esteemed honorary member of the family. She is there if I need someone to listen, or a ride, or a friend to fly to the other side of the world and just hang out. And I would do the same for her. We don't talk much, because we don't need to; our friendship occupies a space beyond performance.

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Legitimate

Tue, 12/07/2010 - 02:52 -- Bee

It is so nice my daughter is an adult: the risk of kidnapping has vanished!

I can disclose my location, discuss and describe my immediate vicinity, share contact information! On my daily perambulations I can look at flowers instead of scanning for bad guys!

I no longer need to sit with my back against the wall.

Miles and years have converted the threat to piquant dinner table anecdote, but it was legitimate. Real. True. Not just a shouted refrain in a custody dispute: oh no. Someone factually held a loaded handgun to my head and made very sure I understood.

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Reparations

Wed, 11/17/2010 - 21:00 -- Bee

I became a parent before I was officially an adult, and have devoted the better part of twenty years to that project, in fundamental and fierce ways.

It took ruthless and heartbreaking commitment to launch this family on our grand international adventure.

Of course I suffer from the classic complaint of immigrant intolerance, and have a tendency to ask my eye-rolling offspring if they understand how good their lives are, compared to mine at the same age.

Yeah, whatever, cancer cancer poverty poverty blah-blah!

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