How do you get un-bitter?
Damn, I am one bitter bitch lately.
Been having this feeling for a while, and I see it in every post I make lately, my attitude about work, the job market, ability as a parent, state of the world, etc. etc. etc.
I'm in therapy. I take my vitamins.
How do I get myself out of this loop?
gonna slap you.
and wear one around my wrist and snap myself whenever I start having an angry conversation in my head with one of my enemies, who I'll never see again, etc. You could try it with bitter, defeatist thoughts.
***It's life Jim...but not as we know it***
I have angry conversations in my head with enemies that I'll probably never see again. It's funny how those people can still have that negative effect on me years later, when they aren't even here anymore. They've probably moved on and forgotten the things they said/did to me.
ugg, I have parenting arguements with my mother all the time (in my head). they are always worse than the real thing, but I also am always able to truely defend myself in a concise intellegent way, without yelling like a pissed off 15 year old. what a waste of mental energy. I'm getting rubber bands
1) Get out into nature.
2) Write out your blessings/gratitudes, whatever, or say them in your head, or pray them to ______.
3) See a hilarious movie or read a book that people say they read and couldn't keep from laughing OUT LOUD.
4) Read about successes in the areas you are concerned about, things that citizens/groups have done that have actually changed things for the better. Related: choose any area at all that concerns you, small or large. Find the appropriate group, or create it, volunteer.
5) Have an orgasm. Preferably with someone you love or like, but alone isn't bad.
6) Get some exercise. Preferably outdoors, but really any exercise will do.
7) Play with your kid(
. Have fun doing something just silly together. Snuggle.
Get out with a girlfriend for a talk and lunch, breakfast, coffee, whatever. Make sure this girlfriend is either your great listener girlfriend or your girlfriend who always cracks you up.
9) Be sure you're getting good amounts of sleep. Also, watch your nutrition. Limit the amount of crappy/junky/fatty/sugary foods you're consuming. Toss down an extra glass of water each day.
10) Write. Write here, or somewhere personal. Pour it out. Also, write positive thoughts/affirmations. Post them everywhere around your place. Read them, and if you're really smart, say them aloud.
11) Turn off the news for a little while. Do not watch, read, listen. Take a break from the negativity.
12) I don't have a 12, but I just don't like to keep it at 11. So there. 
I can really empathize, I get that way sometimes too!
I like what Rykel has to say. When I can get myself unbitter enough, I will do yoga. It ALWAYS makes me feel better, if not instantaneously, then within the first few days of doing it. I just sleep better, am less cranky, etc.
Limit the sugar intake, yeah. And you should definitely do something nice for yourself each day because you deserve it. Something you wouldn't normally do. That always makes me feel less negative, too, remembering that I owe it to myself to treat myself once in a while. No excuses, either. (I have a horrible tendency to weigh myself down with more negativity when I'm already down in the mire..."I can't do that; I'm already running late" or "I can't stop for a cup of coffee; I have no money", but I can usually find a dollar in change laying around somewhere.)
Let us know if any of this helps. I'm sorry about the bitter bitchiness; I know just how you feel.
rykel said it well. i would add, get a pedicure! it makes you feel so pampered and whenever you get pissed, just look at your fabulous toes.
Watch a birth - live or televised! Nothing beats the most amazing thing we can do for making you feel hopeful! You're welcome to sprawl on our couch and watch discovery health any day! 
I never gave them hell, I just tell the
truth and they think it's hell.
Truman, 1956
Now, this may cause me more trouble than it does good, but when I feel like you do now, I make a major change. New house, new job, new town, whatever.
Maybe I am the only one that takes advice from rock bands from the 90's with dead singers, but as Blind Melon says- "when life is hard you have to change..."
Do something dramatic and fun to your hairstyle! That's another one that's worked wonders for me...
_________
"It takes a village, people!"
- Carson Kressley
LOL. Me too. I have an appointment to get my hair done this Weds and I'm thinging about getting bangs again. I'm looking forward to doing something different for the spring.
These are all great suggestions. I'm writing some of them down for myself, too.
And if none of them work and you're interested in a quick (chemically induced) fix, I recommend a grande-size chocolate-infused caffeinated beverage of some sort. That, or a wine cooler in some outrageous color that doesn't occur in nature. Works for me every time...
I can't bitch about too much when I am drinking a margarita outside on a warm day/night. Unless it's a crappy margarita.
Find a bar (or someone's patio) with outdoor seating and a decent happy hour and hit it on one of these here fine spring days. Nothing tastes better than food and drink outdoors. Stay until dark, smoke a cigarette, bust out the outdoor christmas lights and candles and make a night of it.
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