is someone to help me around this freakin place! You know. Run an errand, build a raised bed, take care of the cat when I leave town, keep an eye on my kid when I run to the store, clean up the kitchen now and again, buy a toilet brush.
Having my own place and a kid and a kitten is so much work. I am exhausted every day. And I spend very little time working for money.
And of course I want great sex. And someone to go to good shows with...if I want them to. And someone I can be in the same room with who doesn't think we need to be talking, or interacting, all the time. And someone who adores me.
How 'bout you?
that's funny, i said to mr filth tonight as we drove home that i'm not hanging out with him in the dirty ass living room, nor am i cleaning it. we get home, he gets to work, i pick up some cleaning supplies and within two hours the room is deep deep clean. then he says to me, "let's tag team a room every sunday." he had FUN. he bargained with the kid to take on some of the chores for money. and i helped. as in, i was not in charge. i didn't have to direct and spoon feed.
oh how nice it would be if it actually did happen every sunday. my house would smell less like dog. twice a month, even once a month, if it actually happens would be fantastic.
so, leaving me the frick alone is nice too. walking into the room where i am and just going about your business. going ten minutes without talking to me, not interrupting me when i'm plainly reading or writing.
let's see what else.... caring for the dogs, like it's your job, not waiting for someone to remind you that yes, they will eat and shit TODAY too.
When I was your age, I was already trying to kill my second husband and make it look like bears did it.
@MadameFilth
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ya know what is weird? I have been thinking in terms of someone who didn't live with us for so long ( a year IS long to me) that i started thinking how to write what i want in those parameters but since we are going whole hog -- my plan anyway - write this as if it were my requisition sheet
he should
* love me, be in love with me and be loved & adored by me - I want that missing him when he goes to a different aisle in the grocery store than I am in & then that elated feeling when i spot him down the next aisle
* respect the fuck out of my JOB as a single mother & my son's teacher, respect my choices to stay home with Little Dude even thought it makes things tighter financially, he should KNOW it is what is bets for the kiddo & support me to the ends of the world on that
* be smart; conversationally, intellectually - able to always keep us both engaged in whatever we are discussing & because brilliant is so sexy to me & I NEED an intelligent man
* be handsome, charming in a simple way, not aware of how handsome or charming he is to me
* be hands on - with me, with around the house, with the kiddos, with the puppies, with life but understand his boundaries
* be quirky in a clever, cute, unique unaffected way - nothing too wacky, but enough that he is never worried to be himself
* be adaptable, willing to roll with the punches, able to make do with whatever we have, able to enjoy doing it rather than pissing & moaning about what we have not
* be sexy, loving, amazing in bed, without fuss, but FIREWORKS when he just kisses me hello, i want, i NEED passion again
* willing to have fun running errands - i want goofy spatula fun in Target, making the cashiers laugh when we are checking out at the grocery store, i want the folks we come across when we are out together to smile at that silly "married" couple who are so obviously in love and in love with life
* able to sit in the same room, sane house doing our separate things but still feeling connected without needing to talk or interact
* be willing & excited about going places together - poetry open mics, dancing, live music, walking around town just to walk around town, museums, taking the Little Dude to the amusement parks etc, hanging out with both of our friends, making new friends, coffee shops, farmers' markets, dinner, anything we come across
* love to travel, camp, go high style, whatever fits the situation & want to take us with him, make it part of our lives, and not a rare event or just a talked about thing way off in the future
* know how to cook, make me breakfast in bed sometimes, offer to make or help with dinner, enjoy trying new foods & recipes, and NEVER leave the dishes for me to do even if he cooked or helped
* have very similar political & spiritual beliefs, or at least respect my spiritual beliefs and not have any crazy ones - like hard core Christianity
* have great hygiene, dress himself well even when casual and appreciate how i dress, compliment me on occasion, don't take me for granted
* be as close to an equal partner in most things
* love to brush my hair, give massages, touch, hold hands, be close physically
* be honest with me & himself
* take care of himself, health wise, not eat junk food or fats food as a main staple, but not be overly into it like vegan or raw
* and he should be everything else I want and can't think of right now & he should show up today
I am not really asking for much : )
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"Do not speak--unless it improves on silence." ~ buddhist saying
(wow - my email on file was so old - it was from the old hipmama email!)
seriously working on manifesting this man : )
http://kiakiali.blogspot.com/
http://rileduptales.blogspot.com/
http://greenmountainmamasnest.blogspot.com/
"Do not speak--unless it improves on silence." ~ buddhist saying
(wow - my email on file was so old - it was from the old hipmama email!)
In my experience picky bitchy women do best in getting the good partners.
sadly true
http://kiakiali.blogspot.com/
http://rileduptales.blogspot.com/
http://greenmountainmamasnest.blogspot.com/
"Do not speak--unless it improves on silence." ~ buddhist saying
(wow - my email on file was so old - it was from the old hipmama email!)
See, sometimes I wonder about this. I know some incredible, laid-back, wonderfully easy-going, charming-but-not-too-charming, lovely men. And they are all partnered with women who are pretty bitchy. And then I look at my own husband, who is all of those things. And then I look at myself. And yeah, I can be pretty darn bitchy when I'm bitchy (I'm pretty nice the rest of the time).
Then I think it's just that these are the only kind of people who could/would put up with us bitches.
So I dunno, in the end.
Find ecstasy in life; the mere sense of living is joy enough. -- Emily Dickinson
You want to do what you think is right and what matters to you, and if other people don't like it, as my father would have said, they can go fuck themselves. -- Amy Bloom
yeah me too. but i have no problem being a bitch, so we're all set. in reality it's just our perception of what a bitch is. when we have the gall to want what we want, hold people accountable, and let people take care of themselves, we're a bitch. but it also makes for fair and equitable relationships, which are the happy ones.
i'm loving and supportive to the people in my life. i'm fair and ethical to my coworkers and neighbors. guaranteed, everyone else thinks i'm a bitch. of course i can't really be sure, since i can't bring myself to inquire.
When I was your age, I was already trying to kill my second husband and make it look like bears did it.
@MadameFilth
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EXACTLY!
Find ecstasy in life; the mere sense of living is joy enough. -- Emily Dickinson
You want to do what you think is right and what matters to you, and if other people don't like it, as my father would have said, they can go fuck themselves. -- Amy Bloom
Well i just unloved my lover last night. He royally screwed up and I held him accountable. He sounds like he isn't giving up, but I have plenty of bitch left for him to wade through before he gets anymore love from me IF he can whether it. Inspired by this thread HA HA. I won't take dumb shit. But I guess I get dumb shit for dating younguns.
The funny thing is that he offered to come work in my yard after I told I didn't want to see him anymore. Is he reading my threads here on Hipmama?
well, don't start taking dumb shit under threat of being a bitch is all i have to say about that. there are plenty of fish in the bitchy sea.
When I was your age, I was already trying to kill my second husband and make it look like bears did it.
@MadameFilth
books!
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