family values

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Thu, 07/07/2011 - 02:04 -- Bee

A senior government official in the UK has stated it is wrong to tell teenagers they would make good mothers. Conflating age with income, maturity, and mental health, he went on to say social workers should not press pregnant women with personal difficulties to bring up their children.

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These statements are disgusting, repulsive, and reprehensible. Tories do not care about "family values" unless family = middle class, middle aged, and married.

Beyond that, this man is simply delusional about the reality of being ALIVE. Who amongst us can claim we waited until the perfect moment to procreate? Or if we managed that trick, that the whole process was without challenges? That our extended families, communities, jobs, health, the environment, the weather, all remained stable and fixed and pleasant?

Who is this perfect family, could I meet them please? Cause I've traveled the world and I know people of all backgrounds and income brackets, and being a parent is freakishly difficult for all of us. Except, evidently, right wing politicians. Who never, ever have any problems whatsoever.

When has a social worker ever encouraged a young mom who can't cope to keep kids she can't deal with? I would be willing to bet, oh, well, NEVER. The more common story I hear (and have experienced) is social workers telling young and poor mothers they should give up all hope for a future.

If there are failings in the social care system they happen because social workers don't have enough time and funding to help the people who ask for assistance.

Adoption has decreased in the UK and the US because women have exercised their right to obtain legal contraception and abortion.

This means fewer unwanted babies are born.

This also means a greater proportion of infants are wanted.

I actually agree that there should be more support for adoption. There are vast numbers of awesome potential parents, and an even bigger number of kids who need homes. The government should focus on funding and facilitating a wider array of programs to build new and better foster and adoptive programs.

But telling a teenage mother, or a poor mother, that she isn't qualified to raise her own children, because she is young or poor?

In a word: no.