special thanks to my kid's dad
for watching JAWS with her during one of her supposedly "supervised" visits tonight and causing her to not be able to go to sleep now because she says she's thinking about "scary sharks that eat boats and people."
don't worry about it, though, because in his defense she WANTED to watch it, and he didn't let her watch the REALLY scary parts. and oh, since he "stands firmly" by his decision despite the fact that she's scared shitless now, i must just be a raving lunatic for having a problem with it. if he "stands by it" then it must have been a good choice to let a three year old watch a horror movie, right?
my statement to him: "parents make mistakes. the key is to learn from them. please do not let our daughter watch horror movies ever again."
his response: "i stand by the decision. she wanted to watch it, and i thought she could handle it. and in the future when i think she can handle something, i'll allow her to do it. some of those time, unfortunately, i'll be wrong. this was one of those times."
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At least he admitted he was wrong.
Usually they just keep insisting that the problem is you.
Sometimes I want to stitch up some pink robes with pointy hats and form a vigilante group of single mothers who burn swingsets on the lawn of useless fathers.
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Memory is a crazy woman that hoards colored rags and throws away food. ~Austin O'Malley
I once shared a multi-family house with a mother of three. We had a common hallway in the house that, by opening the apartment doors, we could travel between each other's houses. We worked opposite shifts.
She handled the day shift with the kids. I handled the evening shift. She HATED to do laundry, dishes and cooking I did those for both families. I was hopeless with playing and homework so she did that for both famiies. I handled creative stuff like costumes and those horrible school science projects since that's more up my alley.
We pooled our money to grocery shop so that we could buy more in bulk and spend less on food. On Sunday mornings, we'd switch apartments...I'd clean hers, she'd clean mine since it's always easier to buzz through somebody else's mess without the guilt and recrimination of cleaning one's own.
I had a mini van, she had a small car, so whoever had the kids took the van and whoever was going to work took the car.
At the end of the day, we went home to our own apartments for a little privacy.
It lasted for 3 years til circumstances changed (her husband changed jobs from long-distance driver to something local). It was the best three years of being a parent.
what a great idea. i'm not a single mom, but i would totally join that group as the child of a useless father.
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the "admitting" he was wrong came after about an hour of texting back and forth where he insisted that he can do what he wants, and that i'm not the boss of him, and that he'll watch whatever the fuck he wants with his daughter whether i like it or not, and that it's "none of my business". yeah, because my kid laying in bed wide-eyed beside me at bedtime because she can't get the image of a man-eating shark out her head is none of my business, right? always sticking my nose where it doesn't belong, i am. i'm unimpressed with his insinuation that he'd do the same thing again, although at least he finally semi-realized he had made a bad choice. one of his excuses at one point was "please, she's afraid of fucking TOY STORY." uh, yeah dude. that's what should tell you it's not a good idea to watch jaws with her.
anyway, it's sad that his automatic response when i asked him to not watch adult movies with our three year old was "fuck you, you're not my superior, do NOT tell me what to do" but i wouldn't expect anything less from him.
we need a mommune.