hair, hair, hair!
I'm an accidental ginger these days. I was trying to do a nice, ash blonde, but I guess I went too many shades up and landed in Auburn. I was trippin' about it for a while, as I was a bottle redhead for many, many years, ending when I split with the FAX, and I don't want to go back in time. But, the minute I went there, I noticed people staring at me, in a good way. A client who I haven't seen in a month or so heartily complemented me on the hair today, too. So, I guess I'll take that option for a while. It's no Marilyn platinum, but maybe this color suites my skin tone better.
I am growin' the hair out, now that I have a "growin' it out" hair cut. Went to a Black Metal show on Saturday and was really, really missing being able to do a proper head bang.
And, now, for the other hair. I know Meds recently posted about getting a epilator. That sounds appealing to me. I do have a lot of leg hair, and it's quite dark against my blindingly white legs, and it grows fast, and my skin is sensitive, so I can't shave every day. I've tried waxing, but I don't like it--the mess. I don't like the mess. So maybe I will be an epilady. Any recs as far as brand name for a hair-ripper-outer?
And now for the other, other hair. I tend to be a hippie about it, left to my own devices. However, Blond All Over requested a trim. In the interest of Women's Equality, I asked the same of him (even though I don't really give a shit--I just want him to have to deal with itchy stubble, too!) This may be a little TMI, but I HAVE been trimming. I mean, length. And I shave the bikini line. This is a lot, what I have already done, IMHO. Then I do get razor burn and a rash from the stubble and I have to apply hydrocortizone and wear my underwear inside out--so the soft part of the elastic touches my skin (why make the rubbery side touch your skin, anyway, Victoria? 99% of the reason for wearing chonies is for the comfort of the wearer.) The last year of not dating and not fucking, I have been content not to shave much and not to trim at all. So, now I'm trippin'. When a guy asks for a "trim" (of hair that I have already trimmed)--how much am I supposed to take off? Am I supposed to have a landing strip now?!? Should I just get a Brazilian? What is the fashion standard now? And how the fuck do I reconcile this with my already fragile body image? Do you suppose there's a way to talk to him about this? I don't even know what to say. I mean, there's "Fuck no, I'm not trimming this shit. This is my body, I do what I want with it." There's "Uh, I already trimmed it." There's "I already trimmed it, but I have a lot of dark, fast-growing hair against light, sensitive skin, so even if I do more trimming, I'll just be uncomfortable and it won't last more than a short while anyway." or "I have body images and I fear that if I acquiesce to your request that I will fall into a pattern of denying my own pleasure and preferences in an effort to turn myself into someone you like."
Give me head, with hair, indeed.
"Mediocrity knows nothing higher than itself; but talent instantly recognizes genius"--Sir Arthur Conan Doyle
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looks marvelous.
As for the rest, Brazilian seems to be the way to go, although getting there isn't always an easy ride. I tend to be Mrs. Gorilla in the hair department...waxing works best for me. Hurts and messy, but once it's done, and the healing (yes, healing) is complete , it's done for four to six weeks.
Good luck.
Glamorous
Memory is a crazy woman that hoards colored rags and throws away food. ~Austin O'Malley
for me, it's two weeks from when the waxing was done. so, i have a few days of smoothness after healing, before the stubble. i just say fuck it. humans have hair. and mine is jet black. deal with it.
I don't do crap all. (well, the hair on my head gets lots of attention but that's for ME) Thankfully, no one has ever asked me to trim, wax or anything else. Cos HEALING?! HEALING?! that implies pain and damage and whatnot, and I'm not really interested in that for anything other than what is strictly necessary (this is a bit hypocritical on my part- I mean, I've got piercings that hurt at the time and required healing. But again, they were for ME! not a guy or a woman, in my case).
So I'm afraid I can't really help your original query, shades. I'd tend toward the- "This is what I do. Deal." Is it really a dealbreaker??? I'd hope not... I mean, he's BOA, right? What if you wanted him to be Blonde Not All Over (not that you would, but theoretically-speaking)? Would he go for that...fair's fair, eh? hahahahah.
Find ecstasy in life; the mere sense of living is joy enough. -- Emily Dickinson
You want to do what you think is right and what matters to you, and if other people don't like it, as my father would have said, they can go fuck themselves. -- Amy Bloom
do what's most comfortable for you, for the activities you spend the most time doing. i find it hard to believe that BAO would be seriously unhappy if you trimmed to a length that you like, on an ongoing basis. and there's nothing wrong with a good waxing once, as a treat for him if that's what he's into. but it should be fun for you to do this for him, not anxiety inducing.
i've bought, used, and ceremoniously thrown away an epilady to a chorus of good riddance rhymes. those things are glorified tweezers that pluck out each individual hair one at a time, slowly, and you have to fuck with the angle of the thing constantly. it's not like you can sit there in front of the tv moving it in a circular motion over your skin. you have to sit there paying attention and fucking around with it. and, for some reason, the skin does not acclimate to the pain, like when you pluck your eyebrows and get used to it. it hurts just as much, each hair you pluck out. it was useless for me.
i honestly believe that there is no better hair removal method out there, than the good ol' razor. if your skin can't handle that, then i'd bet you're stuck with hair.
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