I am starting a single mother support group.
This is my answer to wallowing, reading facebook accounts of people going on marvelous vacations with their loved ones. I am feeling incredibly trapped and have decided to get proactive about it, and seek out others who, like me, might feel a bit at a loss when they read about some old high school friend who is lounging around on Laguna Beach with her girlfriends while her incredibly successful, handsome and caring husband worries about taking care of the kids for her.
Sweet!
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Kinda of a long commute for me, though.
I was in a single parents support group for a while, but there were a few things I didn't like about it--maybe these are things you might want to think about, maybe not. One was that there were single dads in the group, and whereas single dads are single parents and face some of the same difficulties, it doesn't matter. They don't get the bum rap from society--no, they are looked at like firefighters carry twin infants from a burning building. And I have as yet to see a single dad who doesn't have a girlfriend or mother or the baby-mama doing a lot of the parenting. Plus, they are men, and men are whiny bitches ("Ooooh! Being a single parent is so hard for me, blah blah blah.") Another thing was that there was the one psycho lady who made the meetings be all about how much she hated her kids and how awful they were and how they wouldn't go to therapy, etc. etc. You know that thing about group dynamics--most of the people in the group are there to support each other, but there's always the one psycho who turns it into their private therapy session with everyone else politely hoping to bite their leg off to get out of the trap. It takes clear direction from the leader of the group not to let that happen. And the last thing was that I was the only solo single mom. Everyone else was co-parenting, or their mom or auntie or someone was around to relieve the burden for them, so they couldn't really relate to the idea of never having a day off, of not having someone to bounce ideas off of. Really, that was what I needed from that group. A sounding board. And that group wasn't set up to help people be sounding boards for each other.
Anyway, maybe here on HM, you can develop some specific thoughts about what you need and want from a single moms support group--and maybe we can help you figure out how to make that happen!
"Mediocrity knows nothing higher than itself; but talent instantly recognizes genius"--Sir Arthur Conan Doyle
hello bird brains!
i meant to post this awhile ago, i think it's an excellent idea - i say: yes!
take care - CX
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I need to do this. Be proactive about it, unisolate myself. I need community in my life. I need to be a part of something bigger. I would love to start something for a group of mamas who want to be the support for each other creatively & emotionally, resource swap. If we get together we can change our lives for the better, I believe this.