too young to be a widow
I haven't been on this site in a while, and forgive me for not having the strength to search for this myself, but...
My husband died suddenly last week aged 38, we have two little boys.
Is there anyone out there who has been through this or can put me onto any good resources? I have absolutely no idea how I am ever going to cope.
Thank you.
We live in Australia.
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I don't have any experience with a spouse dying but just wanted to offer hugs and condolences.
I'm really sorry for your loss.
will be thinking of you.
Lapis
I am so sorry for your loss. How old are your boys?
While I have never been widowed per se, I did lose the man to whom I was engaged. He was 36 at the time. Please keep posting. We are here.
Glamorous
Memory is a crazy woman that hoards colored rags and throws away food. ~Austin O'Malley
I'm so so sorry mama. I can't begin to imagine how you must be feeling. These are just a couple sites I found. Sending you loving vibes
http://www.groww.org/resource.htm
http://www.griefshare.org/
http://www.memory-of.com/Forums/ShowPost.aspx?PostID=127257
http://www.videojug.com/filmsuggestion/how-can-i-deal-with-losing-my-hus...
Nikkei
i'm so sorry to hear about your loss. i follow a single father's blog whose wife passed and he is in his early 30's. like you said, too young to be a widow (er in his case). he has a blog: mattlogelin.com and he has many resources and even a foundation you could apply to for some assistance as it is for widows and widowers in need. lots of support and love flying to you in your moment of sadness. i hope things get easier for you soon.
to you, will remember you in my meditations. Whatever support or comfort
that is offered I hope you will take and seek out as you feel ready. What a
tragedy. There is no comfort in this kind of loss- only hope you have others
to lend their hearts now and know the world is with you, still.
Love Maggie
I am so sorry, and sending you hugs.
Not my husband, but my fiance died very suddenly 7 years ago, when my son was 7 years old. Someone posted the link to GROWW, they were a lifesaver for me. Truly. I don't think I would have survived if not for the people there.
Please take time for yourself, and grieve for as long as it takes. I'm here to say it does get easier. You won't be able to believe it now, but it does. I have since remarried, have two stepsons and another child. A completely different normal.
Please keep posting if you feel it helps, or send me a PM any time. I don't visit this site very often but do check in. Big hugs to you.
"Step off my big ass."
- Anthromom
first off - i'm truly sorry that this has happened to you and your family -
i love you - please tap into whatever resources you can, counseling, women's groups, etc. and most of all - keep posting about how you feel.
don't give up - and keep reaching out. your husband loves you very much.
your friend - forever - CX
is a big cyber hug. i'm so sorry, i hope you muscle through this.
http://www.grief.org.au/grief_and_bereavement_support This site seems a bit confusing but it's for the Australian Center for Grief and Bereavement
These two support groups are in Brisbane- http://www.youngwidows.info/
http://www.acrossnet.net.au/resource_view_public.asp?aglsid=7123 The Grief and Bereavement Support Group
Wish I knew how to search for things in Australia a bit better. Wish there was something more I could do. Hugs sweet lady.
please do reach out for help. people want to help you cope. i have some friends in australia in melbourne and bisbane. they are mothers too and would help you, i am sure. are you near either one of these places?
though it seems impossible now, you will get through this.
just focus on the present, get through these minutes until the minutes become hours and days.
he is not gone. he will always be with you.
http://orangerainbows-youngperthwidowssupportgroup.com/ (This looks like it might be just right- this woman looks like she's just trying to get this support group off the ground- maybe she needs help)
http://www.lifelinewa.org.au/pages/about/index.asp (This is a crisis help line)
http://www.solace.org.au/contents.htm (Group meetings)
Sorry it took me a minute. Much love!
sending you love and angels.
kati
I am sending you and your family a big hug across the Pacific. The only things that have ever helped me in dealing with grief was to put one foot in front of the other, try to get through one day at a time and never forget that that love and that person is still out there somewhere.
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Thank you to all of you for the help and support. I have checked out and bookmarked all the websites that have been mentioned, although I am still too much in shock to really take anything in. I appreciate the love that has been sent my way and feel very blessed. For those who have asked I live in Perth (the other side of Australia from everywhere else), and there don't even seem to be any support groups for young widowed mamas, maybe there's a calling for me there in the future.
Feeling the love,
Jo