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birth control, mine, yours...what to doI don't want to have any more children. That's really the topic of a whole 'nother post. But, given that: The question is, what to do to prevent a pregnancy. It's causing me all kinds of stress. I should probably chill cos it took us a whole year of trying to get pregnant with the young Ms. T. But then I always remember those stories of people for whom it took a long time and the second time around it was like BAM! they were pregnant without hardly trying. The idea of that happening to us scares me. So, I was on the pill for about 20 years, more or less. And I'm just not sure continuing to take hormones is really all that great for me. I'd love to do something without hormones. And so that would rule out mirena type IUDs, I think. So- copper IUDs. But somehow they scare the shit outta me...I worry about the cramping- I suck with pain. Heavy periods? No, I don't want that either, thanks very much! Condoms are what we are using now, but there's always this anxious (cos anxiety is what I do) voice in my head..."what if the condom breaks?! People get pregnant using condoms all the time..." Vasectomy would seem like a good answer. But what if I change my mind and decide I want more kids? I don't think it would happen, but maybe. You just never know how you're going to feel in 2 years or whatever. Once the memory of parenting a newborn has faded, maybe? So what do you guys do for birth control? I know some of you are doctors and the like--Should I relax already about taking hormonal birth control? Or is it a valid concern? Lay it on me, mamas. __________________
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thanks you guys!
You are all awesome. I am not really closer to making a decision, sigh. Vasectomy really seems to be the way to go. And if we decide we want more children we can pursue other options. Fortunately the Wee Papa is on board with the vasectomy, although he did scare himself a little by reading more about it! ha. And I really don't think I want more children or am likely to change my mind. A bunch of women in my that other mom-ing board due date club (we have a facebook group actually) are pregnant now and I'm like NO WAY is that for me! So yeah, xmas eve rambling. One of these days I'll get around to making a decision!!!!
i, too, heart my iud
like really really heart that shit. cramps aren't too bad, periods are a little longer, but what.ev.er cuz this shit lasts fer 10 years and is so stress free, it's not even funny. and i was SO SCARED to get it put in, like SO FUCKING SCARED and it was totally painless and one of those, ya know "ok...do it!" and the midwife is all like, "umm, yeah. it was done. like. 5 ago..."
i love my iud.
I *heart* my copper IUD
I have a copper IUD. I am very sensitive to hormones and was on the pill for about 6 mo. Went to the doctor for a regular exam and my blood pressure was super high, like stroke high. Ditched the pills and did the pull and pray successfully for 6 years. It was never an issue for me. I guess I just knew my body really well and we were also good at the "pull" part. I also knew that if I got preg accidentally we would be cool, so I had that going for me.
Now I have a copper IUD. I rarely ever think about it. Never feel it unless I'm looking for it. I do have cramping on day one, but nothing worse than that. My periods are regular.
Almost all of my friends have a copper IUD as well. It does suck when they put it in though, I won't lie. I also know of some IUD babies, but my understanding is that not only is it very rare, but the pregnancies are rarely viable.
we've been using condoms for years,
while we wait for the Mr to work up the nerve, and the cash, for the vasectomy. no hormones for me neither.
thanks birdie for sharing about the cysts, i didn't know that. the IUD was in the back of my head as another option but if the rate is 10% then i think i'll pass.
"You're on a first name basis with lucidity, my friend. I have to call him Mr Lucidity, and that's no good in a pinch."
come out
I second the "rule out mirena type IUD"
After two months with one of those things I had an 8 cm cyst on my right ovary that was pressing on my spine and leg nerves. NOT COOL. 10% of women get cysty from those things. NOT COOL.
I am not an advocate of ANY type of hormonal birth control.
That said, I rely solely on condoms- I've been lucky so far, if a bit latex sensitive at times. Condoms, although I hear so many people complain about them- are amazing things in their simplicity. They help prevent disease, bacteria transfers, pregnancy- and I think the peace of mind helps me orgasm. There's nothing like the thought of getting accidentally pregnant to put a damper on orgasms. But i hear you on the "but what if they break?" thing...... perhaps a diaphragm + a condom? I know that sounds super sexy- but that's where I might be headed- and I'm one sexy beast! RAWR!
Saran wrap your bodies? I VOTE NO HORMONAL BIRTH CONTROL. Women's hormones are not to be fucked with.
vasectomies can be reversed.
vasectomies can be reversed. i know two men who've had this done. one has twins now, the other is my sister's husband and she's expecting in march.
they say it takes about a year for sperm count to return to normal.
but you have to think about the cost too.
i don't know if you can answer this or not but...
are there any negative effects for the men? long-term or short-term? from what i understand it is an outpatient procedure... i've been considering this as our option. (notice that i said i and not we. he's not on board. yet.) planned parenthood offers a pretty good deal for the procedure, i believe.
rock, scissors, paper
My dh got a slight infection
My dh got a slight infection afterwards but many many of our friends have had one with no complications at all.
Really, for us, the v-section was a no-brainer. We knew we were done, it was an outpatient procedure, no pills for me (never taken them and wasn't about to start), no more condoms to buy/deal with...
I'm curious to see the
I'm curious to see the responses to this, too...
I went on the pill when I was 17, and went BONKERS...moody, bitchy, NO sex drive whatsoever. Then I went off of them, got a new man and got pregnant with Bear.
Since Bears birth, I've been debating this issue. being single, its not HUGE right now. I was with someone for a few months, and we just used condoms, but you're right, the anxiety was too much. I keep a stash of pregnancy tests in the back of my drawer...that much anxiety.
about a month after Bear was born I got a Mirena from the dr., but again...The hormones from the pill sent me to the looney bin, I don't want that to happen again, because I like sex too much. And i also don't like the idea of hormones being released into my body that arent mine.
I'm terrified to try the natural timing thing.
and, really, I dont like condoms at all. What kills the mood more than getting all excited and having to half stop so your man can fumble with a crap rubber thing?
So yeah..sorry, I have no advice here, but was going to post the same question soon, so thanks, dear Turtle
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