i've been watching you....
...ok. maybe that came out a little creepier than i meant it to. (or a lot, but whatever.) what i MEAN to say is that for the past few months or so i have been nosing around here, reading all of yer blogs incessantly and falling head over heels in love with each and every one of you. i am SO excited to finally have a username -YAY!- (there were some technical difficulties for a while there)...so-
hey hip mamas!
my name's kati and i'm 24 and i have a 20 month old firecracker of a little boy who alternately tugs at my heartstrings and my sanity and i don't have any mama friends (which is a little rough) so, needless to say, the community aspect of this site is a HUGE turn-on (rrowwll).
i've been reading hip mama stuff for YEARS now, courtesy of my older sister who's had hip mama zine, books and other swag lying around forever. i remember reading breeder when i was 16 years old (maybe 17?) and being so blown away by it and, not necessarily wanting a baby, but being excited that mamas had the options, the stretch and grace, to really embody themselves AND be there for their kids at the same time. some of ariel gore's books and compilations have literally saved.my.life. throughout this new and (very weird) experience of becoming a mamabear.
so.
there's my hello. hope to be chatting with you lovely ladies soon. i thought a good kick off would be a grat list, since they seem so popular around here, not to mention the very idea of simply listing what you are grateful for in this little world is brilliant brilliant brilliant.
so.
here goes.
1.) when my baby bear shoots me his "i'm a punk" look and we both crack up because it's SO TRUE.
2.) my job, which is satisfying, pays well and hooks me and the bear up with insurance.
3.) my lover bear, because he is honest with me and with himself.
4.) my mom and my sister because they are the epitome of family.
5.) my new, fancy upgrade of a house because it has towel racks (!) and a dish sprayer thingy (movin' up, gals, moo-ven-upp.)
6.) all the funny and true mama blogs that make me laugh hysterically and keep me sane.
7.) ariel gore, cuz she's brilliant and the mama of hipmama.
8.) the 3 feet of snow we just recently got, cuz even though it's ASS cold, it sure is purdy.
9.) also, the way the sky gets all orangey and glowy when it's snowing.
10.) my new hip mama username and blog access. HOORAY.
i'm sending peaceful, sane, funky vibes and thoughts to the whole lotta ya. hip hip hooray.
k
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welcome! Hooray for dish sprayers!
i've been around for a few years often leaving for offline matters but always returning for the space and support that this place provides. i was thinking what a young mother you were then remembered that i began this journey at 23 too. three kids later...
anyway, hope you find what you need here. take care and enjoy the snow.
well, i'm 30. and i feel ancient. i was really happy to listen to some podcasts of "the voice of young america" and recognize most of the guests. i thought it would make me feel old and out of the loop. but most of the people interviewed were older than me! i harped on this all weekend long to my husband. i suppose there is a difference between old and mature. 24 is an awesome age and you should feel young and vibrant because you are. my kids are three years apart, my youngest is a mere three weeks. none of them were intentional (in fact quite the opposite and proof that educated sane people have accidental pregnancies) but we are happy(ish) and living fully. our kids definitely made us find creative ways to be adults while not becoming people we didn't like. i'd probably still be slinging coffee if it wasn't for them (though no offense for baristas of the world, i think i will always be a barista at heart but honestly the pay didn't cut it for me).
anyway, keep feeling happy mama and enjoy your twenties. you still have many of them left.
three weeks!?!? oh, mama, congrats! i love/hate that mushy newborn stage SO MUCH. there's the milky smell and the downy hair and the sleeping (LOVE the sleeping) and rooting and little baby grunts of nursing delight. and then there's the spraying yellow poop and the gas and sleep deprivation and endless diapering and sore nipples.
but of course you know all this.
still.
congrats.
and...if i may ask...WHAT creative ways have you found to become an adult, yet avoid transforming into someone you don't really like? how do you stay sane and true to yerself? i'm starting to feel like i'm finally getting back to, ya know, the me that was um...ME before the kid was born. but i also still despair (deep and often) about who i am/think i am/want to be in the context of "mama" AND "person."
would love to hear yer thoughts on alla this.
I'm 35 so is that the new 25? 
I feel like it took me several years to find my way as an adult that is also a mother, that was a person that I liked and wanted to be. I remember talking to my bff on the phone while she was still childless and I had 1 or 2 little ones and got off and thought "I am so boring!!!"
But I found my way. Started trying things for myself (classes, organizations), starting meeting people (some I could do without, some that I really clicked with and are my best mama friends now) and now my life is so full and happy and not at all boring to talk about.
It'll happen
In the meantime, this place can be a lifesaver. Welcome!
i think you're the second shady lady we've had.
shady lady 2? shady lady the second? shady lady kati? thanks fer the welcome. i love yer blog.
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oh, my heart is leaping! young!
YOUNG?!? i feel so much older than alla the other (kidless) 24 year olds i know. yup. mamabear at 23, ain't it grand?
3 kids later, you say? i would love to hear about yer experiences as a young mama of one and also what it was like adding baby #2 to the mix (because, honestly? i am having baby urges like you wouldn't believe. but then the SANE part of my brain puts the baby-urge part of my brain in a choke hold and starts screaming, so...). hope yer 3 are happy healthy and manageable. thanks fer the young comment. really. made my day.