What happened to hipmama?
The insomnia is back. I am plagued with it, and a little nostalgic for hipmama. I have to wonder, I saw I think maybe Shadeshaman (maybe not) speculate that facebook perhaps has something to do with how s l o w this site has been? I don’t know what it is, but it super bums me out. I have been reading (forcibly at times) psychology this past year, and I’ll never forget how in this book I have to read for school where we are learning about personalities and the aspects of, how the book described women in stressful situations like to gather their wagons, and form a supportive circle of people when drawing power for something, protection, change, ect. Men are not so prone to do that. Hmmmm. Yes, Hipmama was my thing. It was my go to when I was stumped, or needed to be entertained. When I was down or out or needed to brag, or didn’t know how to cook a new food or if crayon could come out of something, or if I needed to double check if something was my fault or my significant other’s fault- It was my tit, essentially, and I was the stranded suckling grounded by my children, a shut in as I was the only mom I knew, or rather the only mom I knew that was like me. One day, I put in “hip” and “mother “ into a search engine and well, here I am so many years later, so many different names, so many different bedmates, and homes and even in-between homes that it kind of sucks that this place is kind of a ghost town. I really did check in at hipmama all the time, and I got to know people in a sense, and certain relationships formed and I would know that I would be answered by whats her face as soon as maybe five minutes or at the latest a day because the same people spent a lot of time on here, and it was something that was really good in my life.
I don’t know. I wish this place was how it used to be, and I really am wondering- whats up? Where did everybody go, and I guess how come nobody has replaced them? What gives, I am going to have to come back just to maybe make it a place like it was for somebody like me when I sure as heck needed a place to visit in cyber space just for wagon power?
Hmmmm
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i'm trying the same thing, intentionally putting up light reading, as well as political stuff. but if no one is here to read it... when you look at the counter it says like 3 users and 140 guests. it used to be like 600 at any given time. those numbers used to be the overnight numbers. ask me how i know [cough]insomnia[cough].
this is a good go-to place. and when you think about the other mother sites out there, it's really so much better.
I know, I really miss how it used to be, too. Though I guess I could be part of the problem seeing as how I don't post terribly often myself. But I'm here reading every day. And I think a lot of times I don't respond to some posts because I just feel I don't have anything useful or insightful to say, or someone else has already said it. When I come across an article or something interesting I find I'll post it, but it doesn't get much response, so I just don't do it much. There just aren't enough users around to make the topics worth discussing I guess. This is the only mothering site I visit, the only forums I take part in aside from on Etsy. So I really wish there was more activity to actually take part in! And I guess I need to do my part to help out, huh?
Hey, all you lurkers!! Come join in, please. We need some new voices, or some old ones who we miss. I love this place, I don't want to see it go anywhere.
Oh, and nice to see you back, Domesticated Houseslave! You're one of the voices that we've missed 
I went to facebook. I have left facebook.
I wish there was a way to have chat on Hipmama, but there is something about pure, old-fashioned blogging that is wonderful.
Reading other people's things helps to keep me connected to humanity.
Writing things fairly anonymously here is WAY better than me writing notes on facebook. That is not a proper forum for a mother to vent.
I miss having more people too, even though I just came back.
I'm still here, still check in but I miss it. I've been on for around 4-5 years and I miss the livelier discussion, not being able to read all the posts for one day because there were so many.
I've been around lurking mostly.
I have been thinking that I don't post as much as I would like because I have so much inside me to say that I fear the emotional outpooring may overwhelm me when it does come out...
which is probably good.
I don't 'keep up' with people here and post and that because it is also time consuming, i don't get much 'alone' time and when I do I spend most of it busily working away on my next assignment (for 4th yr nursing school...)
I love hip mama and appreciate the women here.
It's like any group of women, they come together, bond, dissapate a little, re-establish a new group.... cycle
not sure if that is an answer at all, but reflection and speculation.
**Breathe**
I've been a lurker on Hipmama for years and years...read it every single day, used to be multiple times when there was more action. I've never felt like I have the "right" to post because I lost my baby...so technically, I'm not a momma...except to my two dogs that are the loves of my life...[thought I had found a man to join those ranks, but aparently I'm just too damaged to maintain a connection...another conversation for another time)...In any event, I feel like I know all of you...and love reading and often want to post, but again - the above...
Just wanted to say hello...as one of those "visitors" who has a voice, but feels this probably isn't the place for it...
well, i noticed this about a month ago, maybe longer - i forget.
i can give you my 2 cents, do you want to hear it?
it has something to do with the natural and possibly unnatural flux of energy up in this place.
the good news or positive flip & i'm speculating here, folks:
i feel like when some key players who normally focus on more positive or "light" energy come back, we'll be in good shape.
consider this:
as a collective, if we only focus on the negative or challenging aspects of life, then the immediate sense of energy feels "heavier" or less "fluid". does that make sense? i also suspect that as women shift gears, our energy takes on a different shape.
the downer or negative side/impact & i'm just speculating again, here:
in the past few weeks, i've "felt" or sensed/read more negativity or even "victimization" or "lower" energy going on here - words can feel loaded. i personally don't think that there's anything wrong with that part!
but instead of discussing someone's problems over and over again, i personally chose to pull out. it's none of my business, and usually not constructive to get into, for anyone. especially the person who really needs healing, but probably can't reach out in all fairness to be supportive of other people who might need it.
honesty plays a key role in the "energy" game. feelings move in and out of rooms, on boards, etc. nothing is permanent.
i personally have done my best to contribute light or positive energy onto this board, because this is how i choose to live my life. nobody is perfect, but what kind of a person would i be if i only came onto this site to rehash the same shit, over and over again? it's not productive, in my book. for anyone.
this is debatable, i realize this. but all boards are a give and take. when i feel like i can achieve some kind of reciprocity, then i participate.
i regularly post online at hipmama and giantrobot, i like to flux between the two.
people do the best they can - we can make this board look anyway we want to.
hearts,
christyX
I've been wondering the same thing. I miss the activity around here and the reminders that I'm not alone when it comes to some of my non-mainstream ideas about everything. This has been one of the most supportive groups of people in my life, and I've never even really met any of you in real life.
I have to admit I've kind of abandoned hipmama in search of a more local group of mamas. That group does not exist, and I always come back here. But lately there hasn't been much to come back to.
I think maybe if I just post something everyday, doesn't matter what it is, and the few of us still here do the same, it'll come back. And there are new ladies coming here all the time. Maybe I'll try giving them something to read!
"Overcome the angry by non-anger; overcome the wicked by goodness; overcome the miser by generosity; overcome the liar by truth." -Buddha
I hardly post/read anymore because this place just got so negative for me. I think probably related to my anxiety & panic spiking around the same time for different reasons, but I couldn't handle it anymore. There are still lots of mamas I love and care about but I am just done with negativity and weirdness, even if it's all in my head 
hey girl! i love the new christmas pic of you and bugsman! how is dave doing?
talk about "all in my head!". - glad to know that i'm not alone in this!
the negativity will release itself, it always does.
the positive is that this board is/and can be used for any number of reasons, AND the downside is the same thing.
i think a nice balance might be in order.
forever,
christyX
Love it! You are so right too, the site is what we make it!
ha! i had to throw that one in! you know what a dirty hippie i am!
at least i can laugh about it, right?!
i think it's the unique contribution of "the whole" that makes this board spin, in the right direction! without enough positive reinforcement or "suggestion" it ends up feeling almost hopeless or stagnant.
i don't know - these are just my thoughts spouting out minutes before i tackle my 4th film critique!
i say:
post the truth - keep posting, period. we can rebuild it, one pube or razor at a time!
your goofball friend - christyX
and that might be because we are too busy, which is lame. Since moving back to the US, I think that I haven't wanted to think enough to blog...it just hasn't gone well.
Anyway, I miss Hipmama. I miss the energy, the conversations...the forced thinking!
p.s. glad to 'see' you!
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