MotorBOY
I read that the secret to seeing the babies genitals for sure was having a lot of fruit and fruit juice 1/2 hour- 1 hour before the ultrasound. So motorboy was SO hopped up on fructose that he wouldn't stop kicking me, which the ultrasound technician thought was funny and irritating, because he kept having to look and look for the things he was trying to measure. For me it was also funny and irritating because my bladder was about ready to explode, and as trippy cool as ultrasounds are i kinda just wanted to get it over so i could take a freakin' leak. It is awesome to see the baby in action tho.
According to the tech there is absolutely no doubt that baby is a boy. I kind of thought that the baby would be a girl, so much so that I asked if he was sure twice- I had to hear it 3 times. I didn't get up the nerve to ask if there wasn't the slightest possibility that motorgirl just has a monster big clitoris, but that's really unlikely right?
But it saves me a name deliberation, because we had various girl possibilities, but we only have one boy name.
LLuc El.liott is going to be the bitchinest boy on the block, and damn straight he's gonna wear all the cute pink stuff I allready made up for him (tho i don't think his dad is gonna let me put him in the skirties, which is a bummer).
I allready had to bust my man's chauvinist chops. He said ¨I really wanted a girl because they're so much nicer and sweeter, and boys are hyper brats¨. Boys can be sweet, and girls can be brats goddammit. But honestly I think it might be tough for me to raise a boy- it's ok, here's hoping he's gonna raise me along the way. I'll have to get over my boyphobia. I mean I like most of the boys that i teach- so why am I afraid to have a son.
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maybe it was the fruit juice, or maybe it was the leg spreadin vibes you got from around the country.
i assumed my daughter was a boy till we had the ultrasound. i was elated at the news, but honestly, i probably would have been just as elated if they said she was a boy too, only because finding out makes the baby a person, whose company you're looking forward to.
oh, and that really is a chauvinist statement, girls are no sweeter than boys, but they do go through their young lives being reacted to like they are. you get from little kids what you project onto them. when you lean in to a girl with a singsong voice and tell her how nice it is that she's so sweet, she lives up to that expectation. unless you're my daughter. but that's a whole other story.
congratulations mama.
Woo-hoo!!
Congratulations again!! Motorboy will be wonderful!
and this is coming directly after having spent the morning trying to keep my 6 year old and 2 year old from killing each other so i could pack the 6 year old's lunch. the six year old is off to kindy so there is finally a little peace. but even with this fresh in my mind, i wouldn't trade the experience of being a mother to boys for anything. congrats on finding out so soon. my dr. wouldn't tell me until a few weeks ago and i am 34 weeks now.
So exciting!
Your reaction reminds me of when my sister was pregnant the first time. We were in the car and out of nowhere she suddenly wailed, "I can't have a BOOOOOOOOYYY! I don't know how to raise a boy!" (she didn't know the sex until baby was born) I'm glad I didn't laugh out loud cos she really was worried, well and truly worried that she didn't know how to do it. Well, now she has an 11 year old and a 9 year old. Both boys. Both wonderful, sweet, rambunctious, loving, goofy, fierce... in their own ways. They are very different from each other and definitely their own people. I love it.
And your so right, Motorboy will help raise you along the way- T. has already taught me soooooooooooooo much about myself and helped me to grow and change, I never really expected that! It's a total joy. Mind-blowing joy.
The Wee Papa and I both thought T. was going to be a boy...right up until she was born. We'd both had dreams that she was a boy. Today we were talking about this (with T's 1st birthday coming up, there's a fair amount of reflecting about "this time last year" going on) and I said to the Wee Papa, "T. could still be a boy someday."
Find ecstasy in life; the mere sense of living is joy enough. -- Emily Dickinson
You want to do what you think is right and what matters to you, and if other people don't like it, as my father would have said, they can go fuck themselves. -- Amy Bloom
I think it's good to think about this stuff, how to raise kickass boys who are feminists and non-traditional.
There was a thread on mothering a while ago that my husband read, about dads raising boys and how to walk the line between teaching them that it's okay to be sensitive, etc. but knowing that they might get beat up on the playground for it. Related, at least, to what you were saying. Also reminds me of a program at the University of Minnesota, one of the first of its kind, that is directed at college men, about rape. I thought it was interesting because most education about rape is directed at women-- how to avoid getting raped. But we've been ignoring men.....
anyway, just random thoughts...and I have no real advice. But I'd bet the mamas on here of boys would have stuff to say about this, specifically.....
congrats! how exciting. and I like your juice trick : )
you know, for a long time I was a nanny for only girls and really didn't have a lot of experience w/ boys but the last four years or so I've ONLY taken care of boys and its really changed my life! seriously, it was baffling for a while. I felt like I couldn't really give them what they needed but then things changed and I really got to learn a lot about them and to love them and to understand them too... you know, I think it even helped me with dating men!
anyhow, you will be an awesome mom for any boy and like others have said, you will be so lucky to have him too!!
ps. I have a little pic of your fertility statue up next to my bed!
so glad you found out. Boys are teh awesome, don't be scared. They do tend to be wilder and more physical than girls but you'll just have the one for a while. the boy crazy does not really kick in until you have more than one, then you'll have a PACK ha ha. Congrats!
I'm like you. With my first I really wanted a girl, and I was actually kind of disappointed and refused to believe he was a boy up until the day he was born. I know, I'm stubborn! But honestly, I've had SUCH a great time with my son. Gender is what you make of it, you're gonna be an awesome mom!!
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That's why I don't want to let anybody put my boy in a box and tell him who he has to be. If my boy grows up to be a woman or a man both are fine by me. I'm just so worried about the whole rest of the world pushing my boy to be tough. I feel like I can help a girl accept fierceness, because I've fought that battle in my own mind. But I'm worried about how to help a boy accept his tenderness.
I think feminism has gone a long way in trying to emphasize a non-sexist education for girls, but not so much for boys- it seems to be all centered around teaching them how to treat and think about girls more than anything else.