in dire need to some supportive words of fertility wisdom!
first off:
good news: the man and I are in a super nice, sweet and loving place. such a relief after a little rough stint!
sad news: not pregnant. when my period arrives the hormone rush actually feels great! but then I just feel a lot of sad frustration that getting pregnant is taking soooo long.
so here is my LIST of all my attempts to make my body baby friendly:
omega 3's
a whole foods prenatal (2/3 dose)
hormone cream (made just for me from my ND)
probiotics
"pregnancy prep" (a mix of red raspberry and other fertility promoting herbs)
I walk FAR many times a week
I eat well (gluten/dairy free... and only occasional, like once a month, soy)
I sleep 7-9 hours a night
I drink enough water
I'm not a big caffeine person (maybe some green tea/mate a few times a week)
I have regular cycles
I temp/chart and seem to be ovulating regularly
I don't drink (maybe a tiny glass of white wine or a gluten free beer like once a month max)
I mean seriously what more can I do? ok ok, the relaxation thing is hard for me. I tend to run a little anxious. but I belong to a great group that does peer counseling, so I have a lot of emotional outlets to work on my "issues" and my hormone cream also has a little bit of added support for my adrenals.
I'm at a total loss here. its been nine months of serious effort. and a year and a half of unprotected sort of trying. I'm 27! NOT GETTING PREGNANT IS THE WORST JOKE EVER! my dh will get his sperm checked this december when we are back in canada so we can see if that is the issue here but in the meantime arrgh!!
Any suggestions or words of wisdom or great articles on fertility you feel like sharing would be incredibly helpful. Success stories are helpful too : )
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Then I decided that with the move and everything it was probably better that i wasn't pregnant, and that maybe we should even get back on the condoms temporarily with the new cycle- but then the new cycle never came. I hate that it was such a cliché, oh i got pregnant when i stopped wanting to try. I know that doesn't help you in the least.
That was also about a month and a half after we got this little clay fertility sculpture that has been passed around dh's friend group for the past few years that has been 100% lucky for more than five couples within the first 3 months of possesion.
I'd send her to you, but custom says i have to keep her by the bed until the bean comes out safe and sound. Anyway she's not mine to give, and there may be another couple lined up for after us.
You'll get there. I wish there was something cool i could say to help you out.
Tigerfish Mama
My OB wouldn't even talk to me about testing until we'd been "trying" for a year. I'd been on the pill for forever (20 years) and even though I was 34, she was not worried. So at month 11, we took a vacation to sea level and whammo! I know the babymoon vacation is a cliche too, but it worked for us. I gave up stressing around month 9 because, really, stress inhibits fertility. So we drank alot, walked on the beach, stayed up late, ate too much, etc. Maybe the little bean who is waiting for you is waiting for his or her right time too. It will come. I blame the years on the pill because after it took a year to conceive #1, #2 came 6 weeks after I got off the minipill, and I'm 37. We were expecting another year of trying and voila! Due in November. Your bean will come. Really.
I was on the pill for like 20 years as well and it took us a year of trying. I was getting a bit freaked out and decided to stop trying for a month or two cos I was getting too stressed out, envisioning the worst case scenario and then ... Wham. Pregnant! 
Find ecstasy in life; the mere sense of living is joy enough. -- Emily Dickinson
You want to do what you think is right and what matters to you, and if other people don't like it, as my father would have said, they can go fuck themselves. -- Amy Bloom
In the medical world, you are not even considered to be infertile until you have been trying for a year. So give yourself some slack. Good luck!!
Sunflower the unflower
All the things you are doing are great, make sure the man is taking care of himself, too- meds, alcohol/drugs, good nutrition are important for potential papas, too... Good luck!
But, men bicyclists can have testicular problems. Does he have one of those balls-friendly seats? Maybe it wouldn't hurt to look into it.
I have not read anything about anti depressants and male fertility, but it is an interesting question. I doubt there is a connection, knowing how they work, but it is always worth looking into.
hello beautiful - i love you dearly! have you considered creating a vision board dedicated to your baby? do it! visualize what you want, when, the whole 9. the universe is on your side!
forever, your friend - christyXDC
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Your story is actually very inspiring.
maybe you could take a picture of your fertility statue and I'll put THAT next to my bed : )
I know there is a babe that is just waiting to be ours. when i was younger (18-22) I felt really connected to my would be child but I had to, at a certain point, tell myself (and maybe that babe too) that we just had to wait... for a good partner for me and a good dad for that babe. glad I have found those things in one man, but the fact that this is so much more REAL (we actually get to TRY and make a friggin' person that will be part of OUR family!!) than all those years ago when that baby was just in my heart and mind, and a bit more overwhelming.
: )