Rolling Out in 6 Weeks
Mind changed. I'm moving to eastern Washington. I feel good about the decision. Definitely some things I'll miss here. And definitely a change of pace. But I miss A, R, and the kids too much to really justify staying.
My mom's going to be devastated. But honestly, she's 9 hours away as it is. It's not like she got to see H every weekend anyway. I'll be saving money on childcare expenses, and they have family in the airline business, so we'll be able to get to Iowa at least twice a year, and Mom will probably be able to handle once a year, too. Besides that, we're not anchored in WA, we might move more centrally in the next few years anyway. I'm rationalizing, on that front, because I have a really hard time hurting my mom.
25/MN and WA. Queer, veg, single, AP mama to DD2.5.
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I wish you luck and will be sending you major vibes in your move, etc. I have other thoughts on this, but I will keep them to myself as I don't think you're looking for that here. But I really, truly hope things turn out well for you and H. (((Vibes)))
hi beautiful!
i wanted to lend my support on your upcoming move - we're both single parents, and if anyone understands the immediate dilemma of needing to achieve "lift off", in one way or another, it's me.
if washington is going to work out better in the long run , than i say: do it. create a new home for yourself and your family, do what you need to in order to heal and move forward.
i think the option of flying back and visiting family when you can is cool, and the bottom line is your happiness and security.
i spoke with our beloved before's yesterday while she was in town and we both agreed that we'd both been at the single motherhood game for a long time now. shit is challenging and everyone and their mama know's that i'm looking for a life partner and real life to settle down into.
i'm banking on my film to really give me that push i need to take us over the top - and a good man who will provide for us. a man who will love us and protect us. real life shit!!!
do what you need too, and feel good about it!
love you = and i regularly channel love and light to you!
forever, christyX
Good Luck Creat!!!! I look forward to your updates and can't even pretend that I fully understand what you are going through, the decisions you have to make, and the situation you are about to enter. but i always hope for the best for you and i am sending you a lot of love and huge vibes of clarity so that you will always listen to your intuition, as i trust that you are.
I swear I had posted a comment...so sorry if this is double-posted!
Good luck with the move!!! I hope everything works out for you and H. Do what is in your heart, be true & kind to yourself and I believe it will happen.
I am only sad because this means we will have never gotten to meet up, even though Fargo and the Twin Cities are not *that* close, closer than Washington!
Find ecstasy in life; the mere sense of living is joy enough. -- Emily Dickinson
You want to do what you think is right and what matters to you, and if other people don't like it, as my father would have said, they can go fuck themselves. -- Amy Bloom
i hope it works out for you and H, and leave it at that.
when have you ever known me to have actual sense or use caution?!! even when it's warranted!
all jokes aside, i think that washington has alot to offer you - you're doing the best thing possible for yourself.
no bullshit, ever!
hearts,
christyX
Speaking for myself, the caution comes from a place of love, not strictly judgment (although sometimes it's hard to tell the difference!). And really, we only know a fraction of the story - probably more of the bad stuff than the good stuff so our ability to know what the right thing for you to do is really quite compromised (if we can even ever really know what the "right thing" is for someone else, which I doubt).
Keep in touch, okay?
to me it seems like you're jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire, but so what? lord knows I've done just that not once but many times and you know what? Those fire jumps were the BEST things for me both at the time and in the long run. Without them I would not be where I am today in any way...and I'm talking career, marriage, education, and more children. So, not like you're asking! but maybe don't care so much WTF others think of your decision to do this move, maybe it's something you have to go through to get to a better place for all we know. Or maybe this is your better place, what do I know.
If you honestly feel this is a good situation for you and your daughter to get into, that's all there is to it. Be brave and stand tall in your choice. Be that grown woman! Be clear and firm about what you will and will not take from these people (straight up the abusive ish you said came from the man worries me) and keep your daughter's health and safety foremost. Which I know you will! because you are a good mama Creatress. keep it moving. vibes!
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Yeah, pretty much. I appreciate your awareness of that. I don't feel much support about this new development here, and it makes me sad, but I've done a lot of soul-searching and I don't think I need to defend my choices to anyone at this point. So thank you for the positive vibes on moving and settling in. I do appreciate them.