What's new with me
I know, I know, it's about time I broke down and updated about myself. I know you see me here lurking, commenting now and again...I have no excuse for not filling you in.
Let's see. How about I get the shitty out of the way first?
I tested positive for being exposed to TB at some point in the last three years. On meds for 6-9 months. Pfft.
Baby's paternal aunt has stepped forward and expressed interest in custody of him. I just found this out yesterday. I'm not thinking about it for real yet. Just getting it out there and moving on to the non-shitty.
The non-shitty:
We borrowed a camper (LOVED it. Want one) and traveled south to visit the little boys' bio-siblings in NC. What a great trip. Tremendous love. Amazing time.
My kids:
B. She's freaking gorgeous. I never make a big deal out of it but I look at her sometimes and gasp. Need to start teaching her some pretty girl survival skills (anybody get what I'm trying to say? People treat you differently--for better and for worse--when you're good looking. And I want to continue to stress how smart and kind and fun she is so she remembers what is really important)
And she's read Harry Potter 1-7 TWICE in the past four months. I shit you not. Is super helper in taking care of the little guys.
G: Finally, he's seven and old enough to take the Comic Book Creation class at the local art museum. SO up his alley. He LOVES it. He's super brainy with no common sense, totally the absent minded professor. Gotta love 'em. We stopped in DC on the way home from NC and he was dying to take this pic:
E: says "you da best, sweet mama" and "Mommy, I like you". He's very charming. And sometimes completely insane and naughty.
Here he is holding a frog, poor upside down frog...
Z: my big one year old. Still a bad sleeper (ARGH) but otherwise an all around sweet guy. On the verge of walking and then won't we be in trouble. Loves all food, here is slurping some super garlicky spinach and loving it.
There's a hearing tomorrow. I know the law guardian won't call me tomorrow, she always ends up in court all day and too busy. But I know she'll call me Monday (or maybe Tuesday) and I promise to update some more then. Baby's almost 14 months now, been with us since day one...I don't want to think about that changing.
Dh and I celebrating our ten year anniversary this summer and thinking of going to London. Just US. Wow. Wouldn't that be neat?
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the monument one, i could see my kid doing that.
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i know what you mean about the pretty girl survival skills, i think about this with my daughter too. it's weird how boys gravitate toward her and try to make her laugh, and notice her out around town and stare, point and say "that's ___ and her mom!" one kid at a volunteer gig last week was so bad i had to have him moved to another task because he was just so loud and disruptive, all trying to keep her eyes on him. then when she did laugh he would say "uuuggghh!..... why do girls giggle?!?!?" poor kid, i hope he didn't notice how much he was annoying me. and her.
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but anyway, i don't know the survival skills, i spent my life just thinking people hated me and only realized how much it was about my appearance when i got old and gained weight, and suddenly people were looking me in the eye and no one asked me what i ate anymore. so if you get any good leads, i would be very interested. i do talk about it with her, using new moon stuff as a jumping off point. i think it can be harder for pretty girls to get past body/beauty issues than average girls, because they're subjected to everyone else's issues projected onto them. the blatant hostility is at amazing levels.
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people mean well, but it gets said to mine all the time too, and i usually say "she's an artist, she just finished ___" just to make the topic about something tangible. it freaks me out to think that she can come to feel like that's all there is to her, you know? in retrospect regarding how people treated me that i can attribute to looks, it was mostly negative. the "favoritism" that people speak of was very rare, in my experience. men were as hostile toward me as women, sometimes more so. i got more traffic tickets, not less, i can tell you that, and it's not because my driving habits changed. i can count on one hand the people who treated me more positively because of looks, whereas, i can't even begin to count the negatives. teachers, cops, friends, boys, girls... when i think about it, the people who actually spoke to me were the gay men i met through dancing, though i didn't realize this at the time.
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i'm coming to think everyone hates a pretty girl.
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your daughter is at a great age for new moon. and now they have the site where she can interact with other girls with a similar mindset. it blows my mind sometimes, the great advice these children give each other. and there are plenty of opportunities to submit writing and art.
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The best thing about your girl's beauty is so much of it is in her shining eyes and smile.
I can't even begin to imagine how the uncertainty of the baby Z situation must feel, so rather than try to say anything about it, I can only send you vibes for staying as strong as you always have been and lots of love.
hey mama!! yeah i know that teach the girls looks don't matter stuff i try very hard with nessa it's everyone else that doesnt get that shit. things will work out best for your little guy mama they always do! i love that pick with the WASH. monument how clever! and e is such a handsome little guy. I just love your family. hang in there mama the shitty will turn to the not shitty list real soon.much much love for you, J
Jessica
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind~~Dr.Seuss
Jessica
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind~~Dr.Seuss
I think about you all the time now mama 
Sending you vibes on the Z situation. Hoping it all works out for you guys.
Daughter is so beautiful!!!!! All the kids are, really.
Find ecstasy in life; the mere sense of living is joy enough. -- Emily Dickinson
You want to do what you think is right and what matters to you, and if other people don't like it, as my father would have said, they can go fuck themselves. -- Amy Bloom
lots of vibes for baby Z to stay w/ you.
and hugs to you while you wait.
beautiful children. inside and out.
and have fun planning your ten year anniversary. a trip just the two of you sounds like a great idea!
it's me and Mercury Man's 10th year marriage anniversay too!!! the London trip sounds lovely. Your kids...are SO beautiful! sending vibes about the hearing (((hugs)))
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i hope the london trip happens for you...it sounds *wonderful*!
your kids are getting sweeter and happier by the day, it seems! thanks for posting some updated ho; i know i'm not the only one loves to see the dynafamily.
as far as the shitty and non-shitty: i bet that list will converge to one non-shitty list in no time at all. i'm vibing you hard that everything will work out in the end.
ps- i love your girl's hair! it grew in fast, huh? and z's spinach smile is enough to brighten even the crappiest of days...you are one lucky mama
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I know they have it at our library, I'm just going to check a few old issues and let her check them out.
I feel like there's so much potential baggage that goes with being a pretty girl...some people are going to favor you because of it, and how to stay fair/humble. How to sometimes take advantage of that favor when you need to. How some boys are going to treat you. How some girls are going to hate you and team up against you because they are jealous of you. How some people are going to assume you are dumb or mean or stuck up because you are pretty.
All in good time, I guess. I have no plan. For now all I've got is whenever we are out and someone says, "She's so pretty" (happening more and more lately) I try to remember to say, "And she's smart/helpful/kind/etc". I don't know if that is good or bad but I feel like it's just reminding her (who overhears) and also the person saying it that there's so much more to her than her good looks.
My girl is a little younger than yours so so far the boys aren't noticing yet.