when you have more than one...
i know its been a while since i posted, but i still check in all the time.
today i have a great question: when you have more than one kid, how do you get to know them as individuals? growing up in a household with siblings (which i did not) how did your parents get to know you as individuals?
my middle daughter had an extensive test at the hospital. this week we got almost two days hanging out with her without her sisters and i realized`that in her 3 years of life we have never had time with just her. my 3 daughters are always together. how can i get to know them as individuals?
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I think you hit the answer for me in your post, making time for both my kids one on one is what I think needs to happen for us. It feels and is different than being with both of them at the same time all the time, ya know? I am feeling like I need more one on one time with Max. Its funny 'cuz he never complains about it, though I can feel that we just really need to spend time just the two of us. He knows no different, Bella is always around. I get time alone with Bella when Max is in school and since Max has been home for the holiday break, I have been yearning for my time alone with Bella, too. Its hard right now to get that time alone with both of them. I know I want and we need it, though.
or date day, set aside time once a week where you rotate which girl you hang out with and go do soemthing together. I loved it when my parents did this with us.
Right now I get a sweet moment alone with each girl most days. Usually when the other is napping - so it's just for 20 minutes or so. But I try to make the most of it by being totally available and present with her. Growing up I NEVER had alone time with my mom. I was a twin and the youngest of four. I was and still am much closer to my siblings than I am to my mother. I often wonder if my girls will be the same way - that is, will they end up being closer to each other than they are to me? It's a funny thing to think about . .. and it makes me happy and sad at the same time.
My Dad always made sure to do a couple of seperate events once or twice a week.
My little brother and I were always lumped together. If Matt got in trouble and
was a hellion my Mom would say, "The kids have been awful today." Even if I was
a perfect angel and visa versa. My Dad tried to make it up to both of us by going for walks with
me, or playing with Matty(my little bro) seperately. We did really simple things
like that. It was easy since all of our family was around and we could go hang out
with them while he took the other one out for a bit. It was nice.
"Religion is for people who are afraid of hell. Spirituality is for
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"Religion is for people who are afraid of hell. Spirituality is for
people who've been to
hell."--quoted by Ken Bruen (Irish crime novelist)
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