what happens when mama is sick?
well yesterday i felt a little funny and today i woke up with killer cramps. it actually feels like i am in labor. the funny thing is, i still have 3 small children clamoring for my attention and all i can imagine for myself is to crawl into a cave. my husband may leave work early, but seriously, what happens when mama is sick?
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all hell breaks loose. Make a nest up on the couch. With stuff you need, don't feel guilty about not entertaining the little ones, and try to get some rest. I then spend a week cleaning up the destruction. I Hope you feel better soon.
exactly right, and going on here right now!
At work, you think of the children you have left at home. At home, you think of the work you've left unfinished. Such a struggle is unleashed within yourself. Your heart is rent.
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yesterday I felt icky, today I flat out have the flu. Not the worst case, but still sucky. . . Last night I spent 12 hours in bed with baby G on top of me, both of us sweating and chilling together, and of course her deciding to nurse whenever I had finally fallen back to sleep. Though I have to admit, I am feeling soooo much better now that I've had two quarts of tea and 2 little blue pills. Heck, I'm sitting upright at the computer! Also Dh came home this morning for three hours so I got to sleep - and my fever broke, so by the time he went back to work, I was feeling like I could cope again. His coworker was pissed that he left work and there's a tiny part of me that feels like a spoiled, lame-mama, but then the rest of me feels eternally grateful for my husband's job flexibility and compassion!
But I do wonder how we are supposed to do this?
So I really truly feel for you. I hope your dh comes home early so you can retreat!
Do you have any friends that can help? I had a wicked flu a few weeks back, and stood on my front stoop weeping as my neighbor/friend took my kid for a couple of hours, I was so grateful. In retelling that story to others, I was surprised to hear how many of our friends said "why didn't you call ME to ask for help!?"
This made me realize how hard it is to actually ASK for help. This particular neighbor just heard I was sick and showed up.
Failing that. Unrepentant tv access. permission to paint on all surfaces. begging partner to come home early.
Feel better mama!
Today I spent an hour in therapy dealing with my inability to ask for help to get my needs met. Sounds like you are having a prime moment to ask for help. Do it!
I just spent 2 weeks being sick myself and I had to go to work all but 2 days of it... on my day off I was home taking care of 2 sick kids, then SO got sick and he is totally incapable when he is sick. I didn't have a fever, but the worst cold ever with the biggest sinus headache that made me feel like my eyeball was going to explode (I know, gross... sorry).
But, when you have to be laying down, I agree with the mama who said all hell breaks lose. Find a space that can contain your children, make sure there is minimal for them to destroy or get hurt from. Set yourself up with food for yourself and them to beg from you, lay down and let them work it out. Put as much responsibility on your oldest that you can - kids can step up to the plate if they know how much mama needs the help. If you've got a tv, now is the time to use it (yes, I know... I am the anti-tv mama, but there is a time and place for everything).
Lastly, if you are really struggling, make some phone calls - anyone who you know, someone will bite. Just tell them, I'm really sick and I just need help for an hour, please help!
Good luck Huck, I do wish I could help you out. I swear, if I didn't work all the time, I'd drive there myself and take your kids for a drive. If you are still sick on Friday I can....
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glad to hear that you're digging out. We're getting there too. I had one good day but now I'm afraid I've got the post-cold sinus infection. Anyway, I'm glad you called in backup - and he came. Yahoo!
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i had one of those days where cramps fully dibilitated me. there was nothing i could do to get off the couch. after talking to my husband a few times on the phone, eventually around 4pm i started bawling cause i was in too much pain to stand up and cook and i hadnt eaten all day. he came home and i continued to sleep until the next morning.
woke up the next day fine, a little sore, but really okay.
thanks for the support mamas, i am still cleaning up.