pubic hair anyone?
Hey Gals,
Hope this is not crass, but as I enter the dating world again, in L.A. no less, I am a bit aghast at all the waxing/shaving and what I think is another kind of movement to disempower women. I am very feminine, petite, but always had a kind of sexy bushy bush, and I was so proud when I got it as a late bloomer and I think the pressure on waxing/lasering/shaving is pretty weird. But it's gotten to me. So far I just trim and shave a bit, but I realize in the end I like myself o natural, with a little weed trimming around the edges. But it makes me nervous w/ getting out there and dating b/c the single women I know all remove remove remove. My ex and the men before him came of age in the 80s and did not even notice- a women is supposed to have breasts, hair, etc. And the times I have really removed a lot I actually don't like "the look" or the feel as much- I think it's kind of this animal wild thing to have hair and weird not to. Am I the only one who finds it WEIRD? ALl this said, I am relieved when I go to the Korean Spa and yes there are a few landing strip waxes but more of the women are just natural, and that seems right. THOUGHTS?
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Just tell them that the landing strip is "so 2K5" and they'll think you are the hippest thing ever.
OK, I am being a bit facetious, but I think it's just the same as any hairstyle -- it works for some and not for others. Do what you want and don't worry about it. I'm sure there are guys out there who are also annoyed with the full removal thing and would find a little hair refreshing.
Lasering really weirds me out -- I have a friend who lasered the whole thing -- as in, she will never have pubes again -- to me, that really limits the options, you know? Personally I do various things depending on my mood.
Do what makes you feel best and don't worry. If someone really was so superficial as to have a problem with your body hair they probably would be a bit of an ass all around.
Personally, I haven't shaved anything for about 10 years but I do trim my pubes a bit when they get to poufy.
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I think you're getting to see way more crotches than I am, and that makes me feel both awe and jealousy. 
Hehe.
I'm a big fan of trimming and whatnot--I like my patch. I don't want to look like a ten-year-old, but at the same time, I like being able to SEE my biz. And pubic hair in teeth is so gross. Having said that, I feel a sense of admiration for women who let it grow. It's a bold move, these days.
I blame it on pornography. Don't get me wrong, I like porn, but the downside of it is that it can be a little...insecurity-breeding. Like if my biz doesn't look like hers, it must be wierd, 'cause hers is on a screen, so it must pass muster.
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I think it's a drag that going natural is a bold move for women. Although I know what Creatress means by that, because well, it is a bold move. I just think it shouldn't be. I have to admit that my usual was to prune it down to a strip, but as the relationship developed, it would become less of a strip, and more like a field, total bait and switch.
I'm natural now, but if I get the hankering I will home wax kit or shave. I just don't feel obligated to do so.
I agree about the porn thing, but I also think it's the way this culture values youth, and the younger the better, and a fear of "mysterious lady parts."
I've been having this dilemma myself lately, only the opposite. I have always had a tiny landing strip of short hair, but when I was pregnant and couldn't see myself anymore, I stopped caring. And now, partnerless, I still don't care. But I wonder if and when I ever date again, what I will do, as I quite like the hairy look. But I also quite liked the landing strip. Argh! Why should our pubic hair even matter?
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dating vs. the pubes!
barney rubble complained about this, and i was willing to shave it more than normal.
that was 2 months ago, and circumstances have changed.
i'm flexible, but i want my next partner to support my asian bush! i personally don't mind the pube in the snaggle tooth routine! fuck, it works both ways, right?! if you're willing to mesh your face with someone's taint or ass, etc. you'd better dive in with no head trips?!!!
don't you think?
these menfolk are a bit pussy about it these days! women have hair down there, and it's not a big deal!
i always keep her tidy and clean, and prefer to shower or at least pull a whore's bath prior to sexcapades!
a man gets what he gets, and if it's clean, he should be pleased!
it irritates my crotch if i shave it too close anyways.
i support C06's idea of it being a straight up hairstyle! women need to do what works for them.
and i'm planning on going back to my grisly adams routine!
love,
a dragon with a monster size bush!
or a mrs. henry rollins adventure!
how did I miss this?? hilarious! I am cracking up, LOL. oh my word, you're killing me here dragon chic!! ROFL
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and you don't have to decide on a style forever. If you like it to be long and full and bushy, then you should go with that. If you like it completely shaved, then you should go with that too. As far as what men (or any potential parters) think, well they don't get an opinion unless they earn it, and at that point, to me, it's the same thing as a haircut...I prefer my head shaved, but my partner likes my hair long, and I'm willing to give it a compromise every now and then (plus it's a whole lot funner to shave long locks off). I'll do the same with my pubes... but like I said, only for people who earn it!
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is always crestfallen when I trim things up. He REALLY prefers au natuale and most guys I know feel the same way. Of course I trim up around the edges as well but try to not go overboard for my husband's sake. Honestly, I think SOME men may have a strong preference one way or the other but most are just happy to be there and glad you are sharin'. I can't think of a guy I know (and I talk about this kind of stuff with the guys I know) who would be grossed out either way. If you get with a guy and he expresses a preference and you are cool with it well....if not you are going to be able to tell ALOT about him as to how he reacts to any disagreement in that ahem...area.
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DH doesn't like me to have any hair at all. This is bad when you're a Mediterranean Chewbacca. It's a fucking full time job. Personally, I hate the way it looks and feels when my pussy is bald. I prefer my hair trimmed into some sort of landing strip, but definitely still there. We have not found a compromise on this.
I blame porn too. I can understand that a guy might be visually aroused by being able to see everything. On the flip side, it's one more way of imposing a definition of what is sexy on women that denies the way our bodies naturally are.
I say: do what makes you feel sexy, and that will come across first and foremost.
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I like it tidy and will wax the bikini line, but all off makes me feel like I look like a little girl, becuase little girls have no hair and I am a grown up woman...kwim?
But thats only me, like most people have said...its all in your choice...
Mummy's alright, Daddy's alright, they just seem a little weird...
Mummy's alright, Daddy's alright, they just seem a little weird...
some ways.
Maybe it's the age old *Catholic* high school slut look.
I can see the turn on. Guys were in high school and their hormones raged to bone any thing in 11th grade with a plaid skirt and knee highs. I was one of those girls and I've played out that role for my man back in the day, but for the most part, I roll 60's hippie. That said, I'm not a hairy mama so I'm probably more middle of the road.
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I was having this inner monologue with myself in the bathtub last night. I like things just trimmed around the edges, so it does grow outward. And maybe just trimmed a bit with scissors. I feel sexier with it like this. I feel naked and exposed if it is to close cut. Like everyone knows I am naked down around my parts. I do it once in awhile for a little surprise(like maybe twice a year) and that is enough for me. The whole growing out process isn't worth it. I did ask dh to trim it up a bit because I can't see it anymore. He jumped right in the shower and helped out. Champ that he is. And didn't even take advantage of the situation. Just trimmed it up so I didn't look like I had a wool sweater on. Still full coverage though. I think whatever makes you feel sexiest is the best way to go!
I mean I watch sex in the c*ty, but I thought that was tv, not reality. I don't actually know anyone that shaves or trims their pubes. It seems so funny to me! So yes, there is another reality out there - one filled with bushy, furry women. [I do wax my brows, I shave my pits in the summer 'cause they get stinky, and I shave my legs in the summer 'cause I like the look. But I've never figured out how to do anything else without getting wicked razor burn or ingrown hairs, which to me, look way worse then the hair itself].
i am a baldy down there, i shave regularly. i went back to au naturale when i was preggers due to just not being able to reach and see what i was doing. but i started shaving about five yrs ago and prefer it. it just feels more clean. i am real hairy and it is not the cute curly cue type that i've seen on others. prob TMI...
just as an fyi, i've seen lots of naked crotches having been a prof dancer and in dressing rooms with lots of women running around in the nude and i have seen more natural hairy ones than bald. it's just porn that have more nude crotches. i agree with the others on that for sure. and according to all my friends (except my now reformed sister who gets it waxed w/ a landing strip now), they all mostly go natural too.
do what you feel. word.
I've been trained to create illusions. My thoughts are...the wider the bush, the slimmer the thighs.
Optical illusion? Maybe? I'll take it.
My ol man prefers the 70's pube look. Something to grab on to and man handle I suppose?
Maybe I'm just to old to give a rats ass.
(shrugging shoulders)
That gave me a good snicker!
and I'm 40. Maybe the bald look is the new norm?
I don't know, this is kind of like saying, long hair is right or short hair is right. It's so subjective and personal, the decision to shave is 'right' or 'wrong' based on how you feel about it.
oh yah! I also wanted to say, as long as there have been people and ways to take hair off the body, there have been people/cultures who removed their pubic hair, male and female. Modern American porn did not invent the concept...do a search on it, it's real interesting
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i personally like the exposed look and feel, not totally shaved, but trimmed short and shaved around edges. it also comes from being on both sides, sexually....having dated plenty of women as well as men. to be blunt...i think of what is most, um, comfortable when down there.
i agree with the others do what makes you feel sexiest.
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person & I like mine short & tidy. I prefer a good wax, but not a brazilian...of course, here in Germany (at least where I am) I can't get a decent pedicure, let alone a bikini wax. Now that I am 34 weeks pregnant, I can't see a damn thing & it is itchy! I can get DH to help, but I think it would get him hot & bothered
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You all rock! I guess that was my little election break. I've been trimming down a lot so it's more of a polite curly q/girlish look but not a landing strip. i dunno. i don't like to be hanging out of my undies/bikini, but feel like it looks like i had surgery w/ a bald one....just not as healthy. i've heard when women really age it all falls out anyhow. i figure i'll enjoy my youthful frock- a little decoration down there.
Good thing is most of the dudes I date, at 44, are at least mid forties and they are kind of like into a great bod but don't think they expect Mr Magoo bald like the young dudes...they kind of like the wild child.
Now i'm back on rocking the vote for Barack, and dealing w/ a lot of stress w/ the ex who keep annoucing time changes and I will have had my babe two full weekends wich I find hard w/ full time work and a BAD ass kick ass cough/cold.
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