I hate in-laws
My drunk MIL just called me. My 17-year-old brother-in-law just got arrested for shoplifting chocolate syrup from the grocery store. She needs $1,000 to bail him out. We have $1,000, but that's it. I guess we have credit cards that we could put this on. My husband is out of town with friends. His mom has helped us out a lot financially, but she's fucking insane (we won't allow her alone with our son anymore because of how out of control her drinking is). Goddammit...I don't want to deal with this tonight.
Am I justified in being super-fucking-ridiculously pissed at my husband right now? I couldn't even get in touch with him until just a few minutes ago, and now he's dealing with his mother, but I feel like he's being completely assholish wanting me to rescue his family while he goes and has a drink-a-thon in the mountains with his buddies. I feel like an asshole for lying and telling her we didn't really have the funds for it (because I want to help my brother-in-law out), but I just don't think it's my place. It's my fucking husband's place to deal with this.
If the roles were reversed, he'd probably come through for someone in my family, but there is no one in my family who would cross those boundaries and ask him for bail money. And I would never, EVER ask him to bail out my brother while I was out of town, like he's asking me to do now.
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um, i would call the police department he's located at first before giving that kind of money to your MIL. i was arrested when i was 17 for shoplifting at a grocery store and i had a corn cob pipe and very small amount of weed on me and still, all my parents needed to do was pick me up at the station. maybe its different in different states, but, yeah, check it out first.
damn. i sound like such a hoodlum. all that ranting about pot on patty cake's blog and now reveling this... oh, and there is so much more.
"We have a secret in our culture, and it's not that birth is painful. It's that women are strong."
- Laura Stavoe Harm
My candy bar offense at 12 was a pick up and no bail.
let him sit in the jail for a night?
Sound awful? What are you going to do with your own kids while you go bail out your BIL? Or are you going to blindly give the $$ to drunk MIL?
Think about your own small family first. Sucky to say, but, you are the mom, now, and your kids have priority!
"Mediocrity knows nothing higher than itself; but talent instantly recognizes genius"--Sir Arthur Conan Doyle
And if I was your MIL I'd never ask you to do that.
Sorry you're dealing with this, six tumble.
Has he been in trouble before, have outstanding warrants? This thousand dollar figure is rather high.
If your BIL has warrants... do you really think he's gonna go make things right and get your money back? YOU have to be the one to pay it if you want the check to come to you. And it will only come back to you if he goes to court and pays restitution and does his community service or jail time.
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