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Ds accused of shopliftingSubmitted by mnemosyne on Thu, 05/08/2008 - 4:07am.
Ds, 10, dd2 and I are in this boutiquey little toy shop. I've picked out something to buy for us and am looking around, dd is playing with little toys on the floor, and ds is playing with this game out on the front counter. There was another puzzle/game on the counter that apparently had 6 magnetic pieces to it; there were other people in the store, up at the front, etc. The clerk, about 19yo, asks ds if he knows where 2 of the puzzle pieces are. He says no. She tells him there are supposed to be six and now there are only four, and she was just playing with it before he came in so she knows there were six there. Does he know where they are? He says no again, that he wasn't even playing with it. She asks him if he maybe put them in his pocket. I am proud of you! everything you did made my heart sing. fuck her. i don't care if it was her second day that doesn't give her the right to overstep her boundaries and be very disrespectful. You learned her one, didn't ya! I am so impressed. Good job, cupcake! he was falsely accused. i know it must have scared him and or hurt his feelings. she's young & inexperienced. but she really shouldn't have questioned him on her own, she should have brought this one straight to you. it's a fine line with kids, and it sounds like she had no idea how to handle it. did they find the pieces? how did your son react? i'm sorry this happened - next time she shouldn't be so quick to judge and size someone up. even if you're not sure how old a child is, you always need to take it to a parent, etc. i think you did the right thing. i've done the same thing when my son was wrongly acccused of something. and hell, i've also been known to step up for my teenage son when i knew he was wrong! case in point: i knew he ripped down a sign in our elevator before even seeing him that day after work. the jackass suedo manager has been rude to him and our family in the past (he doesn't like teenagers, period!). when he tried to confront me about it, i lied and backed my son. prior to speaking to me, the manager attempted to accuse my son of it to his face, and my son blew him off. why did i do this? what would have been the point in letting him be right even one time? he doesn't like any of the kids in our building, and i refuse to support his teenage prejudice. even if that one time he was actually RIGHT! he's still a jerk in my book! bottom line - people need to be respectful of kids, young people, etc. it's sad when they get the automatic bad label or diss just because they're young! hearts, dc a fire breathing/green scaled mistress production! I wondered if I should search his pockets later when he was asleep and decided not to. I don't think he took them, but even if he did I think it's more important that he know his mama's got his back. I support your standing up for your vandalising son, too! mnes, if we don't support them who will? i've also: covered for a young kid, under 8, who blatantly stole on a field trip. i've done this more than once. in this case, the girl was constantly labled as bad for several reasons, most unjust. i posted about this years ago. had i not lied to protect her, barbara the insane douche bag would have called the police into the shop, midway through a school field trip, knowing that this girl could face a beating at home. i hated on barbara for years, she was uptight, only volunteered for her daughter and her friends, etc. she picked on certain kids and never liked my family. fuck that! instead i pulled her aside, explained to her what her consequences would have been, etc. she never did it again on my watch. in my son's case: i told him that i knew that he did it, and not to do it again. he maybe did once after that, but he understood how it would have made our whole family look if we both copped to his bullshit behavior. he's laid low on the manager, and left him alone. this world isn't perfect, and nothing is set in concrete. even the concrete isn't 100%!! i don't think you're son did it, he probably would have copped to it in the store, or told you later. hearts and no worries, dc a fire breathing/green scaled mistress production! |
Good for you mama. personally though I am a little snoopy, and would have checked later, but let him tell me about it.
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