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Anybody else have a new body after kids?Submitted by PattyCakes on Fri, 04/25/2008 - 7:52pm.
I am really shocked by what I am left with. Not in a bad way, either. I feel like a diffrent woman, bigger in general. I swear crazy biological things happened. My feet are a size bigger, and wider. My hips widened so much that I know its not just a weight loss thing, its been three years and I am a D, I kept telling myself they would go back, but I think they are here to stay! I swear I feel like my legs for instance got huge, like a swimmers or a runners- is it from carrying all that baby weight for three years straight more or less? I could never grow nails but now they grow so quickly I have to trim them once a week. I have heard of vulumptous women gaining alot of weight during pregnancy and without trying lost all of it and an additional seventy pounds and ended up a size four not knowing how they got there. Women that were busty losing it all, women miraculosly spared a lifetime of acne- others got their first trimester zits and never went away. My mom swears her hair was curly and as soon as she pushed me out, "You stripped the curl right out of my hair." Once, I was even told by somebody she grew two inches during her pregnancy. Anybody else? the curly hair thing for sure. i used to have the thickest curliest hair. honestly a regular rubber band could not get twisted once around my hair, not thin as hell you can see my head and hardly any curls. my mom said the girls took all my curls. Jessica more hips and more tits (at least while nursing) tits went back down to normal size after weaning Dee but I was pregnant by the time she stoppped so they wer only a C for a few months. Now I'm back at a D+. Hips did not go away and none of my pre-preg clothess fell right after I lost all the babyweight. (was about 5 pounds heavier than pre-baby by the time Dee was 1. I'm losing more slowly this time but I don't really care much. The biggest change is in how I feel about my body. I love it a lot more and I'm really proud of what it can do.
I lost 10 pounds after each kid, my breasts (even still nursing) are deflated, my butt is flat as a pancake... I'm mostly happy with it, because I have more confidence in my clothes without my former belly and legs. I can't afford to have many more changes, though- my wardrobe acquired over the last 4 years ranges from size 10 to size 2 (excuse me? size what?) and I still don't have a pair of jeans I like. yeah my ass is missing too!!!! Jessica I used to have hips. Now I have two extra rings sitting on top of my hips, one for each child. Also my used-to-be-perky 36Ds look like deflated water balloons, can't wait to see how they react when I stop nursing. And I have stretch marks on my forearms. Forearms!!! How does that even happen?!? "Too weird to live. Too rare to die." - Hunter S. Thompson and my hair went straight for a year and a half, though it is returning to curly now. I gained about 1/2 a cup size. It took me a lot of yoga to get my back to stop aching, which I never had before...but I'm pretty sure that had to do with my incorrect posture during pregnancy, and not so much the pregnancy itself. "Fundamentally the markswoman aims at herself"DT Suzuki Oh, good, maybe my curl will come back, too! It's been pretty non-existant since DD was born last year. *sigh* And my feet are also solidly a size 9, now. I used to be more of an 8.5. Bah. Otherwise, umm, YEAH. I didn't love my body before, and there's even more not to love at this point--tummy was just flabby, now it's flabby AND stretched out. And stretch marked. And my boobs...lord. Small, flat, saggy. *sigh* Quite the MILF, I'd say. *rolls her eyes* And I still haven't lost my pregnancy weight. Well, I lost some and gained it all back. I feel like my skin has cleared up, though, so I guess that's good...? Having said all of this, I feel like I should be able to say something along the lines of what Lunar did--I'm proud of what my body has done, and I accept the features for what they are. But really, I don't. I don't like them. I'm not really doing anything to change them (because every time I do, it comes back to bite me in the ass.) And it bothers me that I dislike it so much because I feel like a strong woman shouldn't be this fixated on her body. *sigh* and more disjointed. My Mother grew 1/2 inch with each kid (is now 6'1"), I was hoping for that. ah well.
but sadly, it all looks pretty damn old to me! my tits have returned to the same size as before and my body mass is about the same as before, but gravity took hold and now my tits are pendulous and my cute tummy chub sags into something not unlike a mudflap. everything seemingly sags, even my upper arms and thighs - except my ass, which now defies gravity and has worked further up my back than i could have ever imagined. i also have dark circles around my eyes from years of sleep deprivation that no concealer can cover, but my nails are strong and hair is thicker than before so i guess it's a wash? Honestly, my pregnancy didn't really change me much at all, even during. Well, except for the nice, huge slice mark I have on my tummy now. I did get horrible acne while pregnant, it eventually went away, although it took a few months. I actually lost weight during most of my pregnancy, the ending result with me only gaining about 5 lbs. after it was all said and done. Although the main reason for this was the fact that I was overweight to begin with, and he was less than 3lbs at birth, so really there wasn't too much to gain. I've gained some weight after the fact, but I think that has more to do with eating complete crap. I had stretch marks already from being fat, so that was never a concern. Ummm, by boobs were already huge, so again, nothing new there. Hmmmm, it's almost as if he came and went without much wear and tear (again, except for the exit wound), and I was left pretty much as he found me. BleuRoo Handcrafted Sweetness |
I gained and lost 80 lbs with each pregnancy, but my belly is now jelly, with that hangie flap of skin on the lower part...my boobs went from a C to a DD and stayed there. My hair always maintained the curls though, but since I'm light-haired and fair and have non-elastic skin, I have stretch marks from my tits to the backs of my knees. I accept this as part of having 4.5 children...
I have two friends, however, that are on their fourth pregnancies (we all were pregnant around the same times) and they gained and lost only about 15-20 lbs with each one, they don't have stretch marks or hangie bellies...it's like they never had kids. I marvel at heredity sometimes...and sometimes I wonder if it's just pure luck
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