toilet learning - what to do now?

Submitted by sweetdumpling on Mon, 04/14/2008 - 5:16pm.

Patience has been in training pants and diapers (when we're out and at
night) for what seems like forever, but probably 8 months or so. she
has had success (as much as i can hope for with someone who will be 2
in a couple of weeks). she is not at all regular with the potty, but
has gone on it quite often. some weeks it'll be one or 2 a day, other
weeks there will be nothing.
There just doesnt seem to be any progress. in fact, i'd say theres a
bit of a regression- if i can even call it that. she's at a stand
still and i dont know what to do.
do i get her covers that fit her better and put her in diapers (that
way i dont have to bend over and clean up the messes), so i figure out
a way to convince her to learn faster? is there such a way?
i think its just that she doesnt know how to "let go" when she's on
there. she knows how to push and will sometimes get success when she's
got to poo. she'll sit on there and read books and isnt uncomfortable
at all, but she just doesnt seem to know what she's doing.
i know theres a learning curve here, and it might just take her a
while because thats who she is, but what do i do in the mean time?

does anyone have any advice for me?
TIA,
jen

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Submitted by expat mama on Tue, 04/15/2008 - 8:00am.

all children are different. IMO, she is not progressing b/c she isn't ready. Plus, you can expect much more regression after the baby arrives. I hear you on the diapers & not wanting to go back, but she has to decide when to go forward.
S was a month shy of 3 when she announced she was done with diapers (of course she is still in them at night). E plays with the idea & has made it to the potty a few times, but I think she wants to be like S. Who knows.
Elizabeth Pantley has a No Cry Potty Training book.
I wish you well!

Submitted by sweetdumpling on Tue, 04/15/2008 - 4:17pm.

i admit defeat.
she's in diapers today.

Submitted by sebsmom on Mon, 04/14/2008 - 5:53pm.

My mom used to have a big bowl of M&M's for potty training and we'd get 2-3 M&M's every time we used the potty. It worked pretty well. But your babe's not even 2 yet so I'd give it time.

Submitted by sweetdumpling on Mon, 04/14/2008 - 7:28pm.

i guess theres lots of it, i just dont want to wait!

Submitted by denessasma on Mon, 04/14/2008 - 5:30pm.

it may be too early. what we did with nessa is we just made her wear panties and cleaned up a lot of mess, she learned in one week. she didn't like to be wet or messy.in the year now that she has been trained she has had 4 night time accidents after that first week. she did not start learning until she was 2 years and 6 months.maybe it's just too early mama.

Jessica
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind~~Dr.Seuss

Submitted by sweetdumpling on Mon, 04/14/2008 - 7:28pm.

but i hate to go back to diapers. i just feel like that'd be cheating her or something.
she does help me clean up and wear panties (cloth trainings), but it doesnt seem to be going anywhere.
thanks for the advice though.

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