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Speaking of hairSubmitted by mnemosyne on Wed, 04/02/2008 - 4:29am.
My birthday was in early March. My mom asked me what I wanted and I suggested she take me to get my hair done, imagining she would spring for a nicer doo than I would get myself, and we could have a mother daughter afternoon of it. She's continually blown me off about it since then, though I've said I need to do it soon or I'll just do it on my own. Because I need a haircut; that's why I suggested it. In early March. Her birthday is this week and she made a big point of wanting my family to take her out to dinner since her husband will be working late. We planned on that, and then taking her to an event showcasing the kids work at ds's school. She called this morning and said she wants to go to dinner at 3:30 because she has to go get her hair done that night. Um...am I overreacting, or is this just shit pie smeared in my face? ick. that's not cool that she called you ridiculous and immature. I don't think you were being either of those things in the slightest. If she couldn't/didn't want to do the hair thing with you the mature thing for HER to have done would be to tell you that instead of just blowing it off and then adding insult to injury by rearranging plans with you to get her own hair done. I mean... what if you flaked on your dinner with her or showed up without a gift. Would she be immature to be dissapointed with that? she called you ridiculous and immature? that is so shitty. so she essentially blew off your birthday entirely, because i'm assuming that she didn't get you something else in place of the salon dealy, you take her out to a birthday dinner and she tells you that you're ridiculous and immature? fuck that. you're not me, but i would just say no thanks to the boston tickets. like, when are you going to do the haircut thing with me? I thought we had a plan?? hold her to her promise... Ummm, I suppose she could have just forgotten about the mother-daughter hair-doing/bonding (senility?) but I'd probably go with the "that was a shitty thing to do!" But I have issues here with my own mother- she constantly makes plans with me/my family and then fucks around with them, cancels at the last minute, etc. It's hella inconsiderate. Like since we are their daughters they can stand us up, mess with plans with no consequences. WTF my mom cancelled on her promise to babysit on *new year's eve* a DAY before the date because she just didn't want to leave her house that night. and then asked "can't (an old friend who happens to be a lesbian and therefore in her eyes must have nothing to do) sit for you guys?" um, no. she is in hawaii with her hot new girlfriend drinking mai tais. We stayed home and watched the ball drop from our couch. woo! edited to add: I had asked her a month beforehand and made plans and everything. and happy belated birthday, yours is the day after mine |
its funny that you mention the haircut thing, i did the same thing, and my mom got me a gift certificate for the salon. your mom did a totally assy thing, and if you lived in san antonio i'd share mine with you (there's a little more on it than i need). sorry mama!
I called her on it, told her how it made me feel. She called me ridiculous, immature, etc. Sucked it up and took her to dinner, got her a nice gift...and she said she'd get us tickets to boston this summer, to visit relatives, which we've been wanting to do. So somewhere I think what I said--essentially feeling uncared for--got through.
And happy late birthday to my Pisces sisters, too!