Quick update on my failing marriage

Thank you, thank you, thank you mamas for smacking me in the face with reality on my last post. Because of your input, long and tearful talks with my mother, and my husband drinking almost every night all night last week, I decided to separate from him for a while. I haven't quite reached the point where I'm saying I'm leaving him for good, I realize that I have my own addictions to him to take care of. But, I do realize now that I can't continue living in some sort of fantasy world and having him make me feel like I'm losing my mind. I understand now that if we're going to stay together permanently that he's got to do a complete 180, or I've got to learn how to be the wife of an alcoholic (which I'm neither strong enough for nor do I deserve that kind of life).

So, as my mom has moved out to New England for a while, I'm moving into her house in a little college town about half an hour away from where my husband lives. It'll be a pain in the ass to drive to school four days a week, but it's perfect for creating some necessary distance between us. We still see each other and are completely friendly (however I have called him a shitbag a time or two), but I refuse to talk to him in depth about our relationship anymore...if he wants to change, he'll stop talking and start doing.
I need some serious strength vibes to stay true to myself. Even though I'm feeling the freedom from him, I'm struggling each moment to stand independently. I've heard good things about these vibes of yours, and I think now is as good a time as any to call on them!