When ds was 3 we became friends with another single mom with son the same age. We have spent a lot of time together and been very close. The boys are best friends, now 10 and 11, but the mom and I have drifted. She's moved up and works a lot, I've added a man and a baby to my mix--things are different. A few months ago she was having difficulty with her after school care and asked if her ds could come to our house after school some days instead. We talked about how we'd have to be really good about communicating about schedules, and that we'd both feel akward with her paying me, but she could bring dinner once in awhile or otherwise show an energy exchange. It's not going well. I had called her early last week to talk about the schedule and also ask about some dates I'd like her to watch my ds. She never called back, until late last night to say she needs him to come to our house until 10pm tonight. Oh, and he needs to be taken to some extracurricular activity. Wtf? The boy is not the problem--he's like a second son and does great at our house. We all enjoy having him, for the most part. But if I need something from her I don't even get a call back, but I'm expected to be available with no notice? We have plans tonight that I'd rather not bring an extra kid to. Also there's been no 'what can I bring for dinner' at all. This doens't bother me so much, but it does s/o, who's the parent here half the time.
I'm tempted to just kibosh the whole thing, but like I said the boy is ds's best friend and I don't want to inadveratantly mess that up.
What do I do here?