Mama takes care of everyone.
No one takes care of mama.
I have had an endless parade of houseguests for the last two weeks, and am just feeling emotionally and physically drained beyond belief. First an old friend came to stay. She's having trouble living far, far away from her friends and family and needed a break. It was nice to see her and to be able to give her that break, except that she must have felt that we were her vacation service staff. Do you go to another person's house and expect them to wait on you hand and foot? I don't. When I am finished with a meal, I pick up my plate and bring it to the sink. If someone cooks for me, I wash their dishes. If someone cooks for me for a week, I take them out to dinner to say 'thank you'. This is a memo that my friend has not gotten.
Now DH's pal is here staying. He's contemplating going into rehab. He's a very nice guy, helpful, and struggling with some demons. He keeps wanting to draw me into long, interesting philosophical conversations about the nature of reality. Which would be really nice. But I have two kids climbing up my legs and it's dinnertime and it's bathtime and it's bedtime and then I can talk for 5 minutes before I fall asleep in my chair.
I spent the day cleaning the house yesterday and doing 5 loads of laundry and changing a giant poo-through diaper in the front seat of my car in a parking lot and cleaning the inside of said car after I got poop all over it and myself and then came home and made Thai chicken satay skewers with a cucumber salad. And then I bathed both kids and read them stories and gave them their milky and put them to bed. And I did it all by myself because DH's back blew out dramatically and fantastically and he is now unable to move from the couch and is sucking down Vicodan and asking me to bring him glasses of water.
And today the toilet overflowed.
I have a feeling that I am next.
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i have many a day like that, to the extreme too!
i dont know why no one takes care of mama. whenever i try to enliset some help from dh, it ends up that i'm nagging. funny. all i want is for you to get up and do some things to help a gal out!!! instead he bitches about how the house doesnt look right, (he thinks it would look a hell of a lot better without all this kids stuff around!!) and yet he has no problem asking for me to tickel him, or complaing that he hasnt done the dishes (feeling guilty) and then....continutes NOT to do them. uuurrg!!!!!
you may explode, but you'll most likely pick yourself up and continue to fight the battle that only women understand. afterall, we've been doing it for years!!!
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Hope next week is a better one.
Sounds like you're a helpful friend who's attracted too many people with nothing to give right now. My fingers are crossed that when dh's back heals you'll tell him what you need and he'll happily give it. In the meantime, can you get a massage or sit outside and just breathe or something?
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hey ma much love to you and i hope you get a break soon. i just love those poo through diapers my first kid had 1 in total i can't even count how many baby sister has had and she's only 7 months. amazing how easily poo can spread everywhere. i'm thinkin of ya ma. maybe talky friend could help out the hubby with the things he needs since he his couch ridden since it is his friend and all.and since hubby is on vicodin they could have some real good reality discussions.
Jessica
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind~~Dr.Seuss
Jessica
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind~~Dr.Seuss
It is always: My back hurts, I cannot move, I want a massage, I need to be rubbed in. And I am doing it to him. When i had a hurting neck some weeks ago (really hurting, couldn't rest on his arm any longer when in bed), the idea of giving me a massage or to rub me in didn't occur to him. So i know what you are talking about. The one who takes care of mama is - mama. Who else? She is taking care of everyone including herself. She is so good in it, isn't she? 
But if you ask him he will take care of you. Mine does and yours does, too. Just don't expect him to think of it on his own. That will give him a chance to astonish you... 
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It's simple, really. Like a math theorem:
The more things you do for me = more sex, better food, nicer attitude, happier house for you.
So simple. And yet so hard for them to comprehend...
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