The great HipMama count-off!
So many voices! There are new ones all the time and I love it. It keeps it fresh with new perspectives and topics. But how many post here regularly? How many people have other parenting communities they post on? This was just a thought that wafted through my mind today. I think of a "regular" as someone who's either been here for a long time or who's starting to post with some frequency. I've been here a little over a year and I'm a complete HM addict. What about you?
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I don't always post 'cause the fledgling is not key-board friendly, and sometimes I just like reading what other mamas are up to. I get so much support from reading about mama experiences from so many perspectives. I don't write much 'cause I have an ongoing case of perfection paralysis, and I fear rejection(!). And I don't always know the right thing to say, and I have a habit of putting my foot in my keyboard, and . . . of course sometimes I forget all about that and spew away anyway! Which is why I love HM so much.
I actually haven't been active on HM in a long time. My time has been stretched so thin lately that some of my online haunts have been very neglected. I've been a member of HM for over a year, not sure exactly how long. And I've posted what I would consider regularly, before the last few months. Not sure how much of a regular that makes me!
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Well, I've been on hipmama on and off for many many years now (first boards). I just recently came back on. I also hang out on MDC. I have varying amounts of time and sometimes it really is bad for me because I really am supposed to be studying/reading/writing...but I really love the community. I've even met real-life hipmamas!
Anyway....
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Sunflower the unflower
I was posting on there in 2000? 2001?, was witness to a lot of the behind-the-scenes of the Great Collapse. Been on this board under a few aliases since January of 2005.
HM fills a void, yet, sometimes, I think it creates another void in my life.
But, I especially like the political commentary here and the poverty activism (which I find sorely lacking at MDC).
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--Marilyn Monroe
All little girls should be told they're pretty--even if they aren't.
--Marilyn Monroe
I'm impressed.
I spent a lot of time on the boards before the crash and remember all of that...
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I check in at least once a day, and post about once a month. Mostly I "lurk" and read other peoples stories.
Been on since my first due date almost 2 years ago, love all you Mamas.
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and have been a HM-er for just over a year.
I haven't posted for real in months but I do respond to posts and check in with individuals from time to time, prob 1-2x per week.
...but I mostly pop in randomly now. I used to be a regular.
I have to study more than I used to now. I also ebb and flow depending on the personalities of the main people on the board. Nice group right now, IMO:)
Sunflower the unflower
post a lot less because typing and nursing a baby is way easier than typing & nursing a tall, squirmy toddler on a oft broken keyboard (though I am having a string of good keyboard luck) a lot of times I write something out & notice the v,c,m, and .'s are all missing so I just say fuck it & lurk 
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and comment when inspired to do so. I blog veeerrryy occationally.
The heart has its reasons whereof Reason knows nothing.
- Blaise Pascal
The heart has its reasons whereof Reason knows nothing.
- Blaise Pascal
i was a pretty active member on the old discussion forums before the end (i miss it) it got me through the first few months of my pregnancy which was just after 9/11 in brooklyn and insanely hard time for me...i am on everyday-don't write much-but i have some papers due so a lot these days...look, i am even writing! lol.
and lately I have been less active, mostly lurking. Many of the moms who were on when I started are no longer on the board and it takes me a while to feel connected. I check in about 3-4 times a week and haven't posted much for about 6 months....lots of the stuff I am thinking about is pretty personal right now and I don't want it out there so I don't blog as much.
how long i've been here. years. long time. several different names. i always announce who i am when i change my name though. i've tried other message boards, sometimes i get fed up with weirdness and/or drama here on HM, but my experience is there are no better sites than this. as much as i complain sometimes, and agree with other hipmamas' complaints about the site, i woudl so prefer the occasional weirdness that this very open space creates, than the weirdness of a more insulated space with less divergent voices. i also find that conversations on some boards with very divergent voices tend to be more superficial. people are more polite, and it gets boring fast. there are only so many jokes and videos you can share.
i wish there was more political shit here though.
that doesn't feel tediously mundane and superficial. That's why I like it here. I seem to miss most of the controversy . . .or purposely ignore it. Maybe it helps that I don't know anyone here IRL.
I used to post at least once a day, even though I was working 50+ hours a week, trying to actively live in community, and pregnant.
Then DD was born six months ago, and I still posted pretty regularly, checking things out every day at least. It was a really important place for me at that point. I mean, I'm from the Midwest. Things like baby-wearing, attachment parenting, public breastfeeding, not vaccinating, cloth diapers, and queer single motherhood were 100% NOT in the vocabulary of people here. So being in the PacNW during my pregnancy and being on HM pretty regularly radically shaped how I parent my daughter.
Now, DD hates allowing me to type, and if I'm in the building, she won't sleep unless she's on me. So that makes it more difficult to get anything done, especially the stuff that actually NEEDS to get done (e.g., eating, laundry, showers). But that's not the only reason I don't post very often.
I'm a pretty big lurker, making it here at least once a week to check in and see what's going on. But I don't feel welcome here, anymore, actually. And that's really sad, because I miss the community. I miss certain mamas who aren't around much anymore, and I feel as though I haven't gotten a chance to really know some of the newer ones because I can't lurk enough. I am sick of fighting, mostly about religion. And when the opposing viewpoint is all I hear, it just makes me want to leave, the same way I left ND as soon as I graduated high school. I didn't feel emotionally safe there, and most of the time, I don't feel emotionally safe here, either.
In some ways, I've learned to just say "I don't want feedback if you disagree with me" because I have to fight enough. I have to be DIFFERENT often enough that I don't want to debate shit when I KNOW I am not open to changing my mind. It's just a waste of time and intellectual energy.
So. That's my current HM status. I still lurk (obviously), and I miss most people, but some folks just make me feel marginalized. And I think it's sad that I have to deal with that HERE, of all places, because it is so counter to the spirit of what this site is for. Not to be a downer in response to an innocent question, but I figured it was a good chance to be honest.
25/MN and WA. Queer, veg, single, AP mama to DD2.5.
Thank you. 
I am hopeful that I'll be able to start anew w/HM after the move this weekend. Put some of the drama behind me and just...read what I want to read. *crosses fingers*
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I'm glad you were able to voice what you're feeling. I hope I never made you feel marginalized, and i'm terribly sorry if I did.
I came to me a few months back that this isn't a perfect little community. It's a bunch of political, rad women talking about political and rad things. Theres def. underlying dramas all over the place here.
I do miss you and wish you'd post more often! But you are setting boundaries for yourself and that is a very good thing.
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