Should I be angry? Cause I'm livid.
They scheduled the funeral on My daughters birthday.. The one day of Molly's life that I always was able to make happy and fun, and have her surrounded by family. I'm pissed off, hurt, and feel like my heart is breaking. I dealt with all the other deaths in my family with relative grace, but this is just to damn much. Another baby girl in my family dies and then they schedule a funeral on top of my daughters birthday. What do I say to this? I realize that I'm the only one outside of my house that gives a fuck, but shouldn't my in-laws her grandparents at least have said something?!
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Very upset, this is a special day for you. But as I'm sure you know, when a child dies things are chaotic and emotional and a blur (and you can fill in the blanks more than I can since you lived through that sorrow..)...I'll bet they don't even realize it's Molly's birthday and will figure it out way after the fact.
they intentionally picked molly's birthday to have the funeral? is there a reason? did it mean something to them to do it on her b-day? i can't imagine they would use the funeral of their daughter to be spiteful.
"There are times when silence becomes an accomplice to injustice." -Ayaan Hirsi Ali
"Bombing for peace is like fucking for virginity."
it sounds to me like that statement was made in crazed grief. i wouldn't get worked up about it, just stay home and spend that sacred day reflecting as a family.
"If moderation is a fault, then indifference is a crime."-Jack Kerouac
“You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.”
Friedrich Nietzsche
seriously. sorry for their loss, of course, but to spread pain around like that is just cruel.
wow. that's just bizarre! i know if something ever happened to my baby, god forbid, using her death as an opportunity to be cruel to someone else would be the furthest thing from my mind. it's almost unbelievable that a grieving parent would be intentionally seeking out ways to hurt another parent who lost a child. i can see why your hubby moved! are they mentally or emotionally ill people? i just can't get past the idea that someone with the ability to reason could do this to another person. just insane.
i'm very sorry they hurt you portlandmama. i wish i had advice or something to offer you. you're in my thoughts.
"There are times when silence becomes an accomplice to injustice." -Ayaan Hirsi Ali
I am so sorry. I know you've been getting a lot of that, but know that we all mean it from the bottom of our hearts. I don't know what kind of cosmic bullshit is going on, but this just isn't right. You are such a good person, with a beautiful soul and a resilience that I admire more than you can imagine. I'm thinking about you, and sending positive vibes your way!
And in regards to your in-laws... may they come back in the next life as slugs, so that some little kid can pour salt on them just to see what happens!
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They picked it on purpose? I am speechless. my word. I'm so sorry this is happening.
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She watches over the affairs of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.
~Proverbs 31
awww mama. i can see how that would hurt. i'm sure molly's birthday is a really sacred time for you and your family and something that you don't want to share with such a heartbreaking occasion. i'm sure no one in your family is intentionally disregarding what this day means to you. they're probably filled with grief, just trying to get through it all.
i'm sorry. i'm sure this is a tough pill to swallow.
"There are times when silence becomes an accomplice to injustice." -Ayaan Hirsi Ali
But, keep in mind that when a death ocurs, Usually the family is led on a time frame dictated my the funeral home, church availability etc... I bet they have so much on their plate, they certainly didn't realize the date coincided with your child's birthday.
this must be a mistake, an unintentional oversight due to grief. I don't believe anyone would be so cruel. It must have slipped your sis-in-law's mind that this is Molly's birthday. Oh my word.
Portlandmama, I feel so sad for all the death that has visited your family. Hugs, mama, and I am vibing for you.
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She watches over the affairs of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.
~Proverbs 31
as i understand, you don't get much of a choice of days to have a funeral. you get a window of a day or two, if even, depending on the funeral home.
"All persons, whether living or dead, are entirely coincidental." Kurt Vonnegut
I would not take this personally.
It's not like you have months to figure out when to have a funeral...and it is something most of us are totally freakin' unprepared for...and we're usually in shock as we wade through the details.
It sucks this year, but in later years, people will probably remember the anniversary of the death, not the funeral.
I'm really sorry for another loss in your family. (((xoxo)))
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I wish I could say that they didn't know but they chose it on purpose. Cause she's not alive anymore anyway.. And yes that's what was said.
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