my sister is in labour UPDATE
and i am not going up there to be with her as she is not asking and i decided after her shitty attitude about me not talking to anyone from her bf's family if i were to be there so i am staying put and i will make the trip some time after he is born and home
anyway my visions of being there are shot to hell and the idea of being the silent sister sitting in the corner of the room knitting and not talking to anyone as if i were a rude anti-social loner bitch when i am not turned me off of being there soo much
family fucking stinks
i am really having difficulties accepting that i was way down on her list of folks to call when they learned they were waiting for a room and then not being called by the bf when they actually did go to the hospital
i had to call our one aunt who is all that we still talk to form our mother';s famdamily and how does NOT tell the 100% truth and embellishes ie she told me she had this baby sweater that Betty, my cousin and i all wore home from the hospital when we were born which i know is shit as my children never had a hand me down to wear home argh
anyway
i am waiting for any info tonight or tomorrow about my little nephew
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he is 20 inches 8 lbs 7 oz
she would not tell me his name yet
i am very bummed out
i should have been there to oohh and ahh over his new little toes, his nose, his brand new babyness
to share in his being here
talking to her kinda uspet me as she began to brush me off to make phoen calls..she wasnt going to call me but there are folks she has to call when i call her...sigh
i'll get over all of thsi just like i have gotten over the rest of the carp
just needed to vent
"Do not speak--unless it improves on silence." ~ buddhist saying
I'm sorry that it all went down this way for you but congratulations on your new nephew. I hope you get to meet and cuddle him soon.
"With a nick-nack paddy-whack, give your dog a bum" Callum, age 2.
trying to decide when i will go up there
"Do not speak--unless it improves on silence." ~ buddhist saying
That stinks that she was that way when you called. YOu have every right to be upset/hurt. I would be. What's her deal- I haven't been on in a while so I'm out of the loop.
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oh we had a huge blowout after her 2nd baby shower and she is being pissy about it, plus there are lots of issues from our mother;s death -- whichis why it was soo important to me, i have blogged about how important it is to me since i am the big sister and we are motherless daughters and it is my sister's 1st baby & i felt liek there was stuff for me to "shoulder" and i wante dto do those things for her cause she is my little sister
but she & i are so different and she will mother so differently from me
"Do not speak--unless it improves on silence." ~ buddhist saying
yep, family can really suck. it sucks for the nephew, to have someone so cold for a mother, but don't let it drag you down. just look to your signature line there. remember how your words affect you too.
"They think I do not know a buttload of crap about the Gospel, but I do!"
i do
i wrote all taht in a very emotional state of mind sweet Foxy and neede to vent my ass off
*deep braethe*
i am better now, i am clear headed and know how i will approach this auntie hood in relation to my sistership
and i will just be the best aunt i can be for him in whatever ways i am going to be "allowed"
"Do not speak--unless it improves on silence." ~ buddhist saying
well, I'd like to say don't take it all too personal. Not everyone handles delivery and post partm the same. I was pretty wacked out when it cam to anyone except Mark.
Being with a large group in a birthing situation is not my cup of tea personally, but that's me. I'm sorry you're sad.
Give her some time and let the birthing "dust" settle. I enjoyed my visits with people after things settled. Usually everyone is all around that first week, then, nada. THAT's when comapnay (and help) is nice.
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BUT i was the one family excluded in "favor" of her OC gfs who had attacked me at the baby shower & are all superficial
i know about post partum, and i thank you for saying that, but sheesh she still has not called to let me know his name! and i am sure her fiends esp teh ones who were at the hospital with her KNOW IT
i am waiting now for all her friends and his family to leave
it just sucks
i was there when my next half sister had her son about 3 hours after he was born and i was the one to help her deal with latching my other nephew on as HER mother wasnt around either
and i had hoped i could be there in some manner for thsi sister as our mother is not
kwim?
tahnsk again for your words DK
"Do not speak--unless it improves on silence." ~ buddhist saying
Hey mamanopjs. Im so sorry about this. I know how it feels. My family on both sides has on too many occasions to count "forgotten" me or thought of me last (in fact it took my step mom 6 hours to decide to call me when my father was dying in a hospital after what became a fatal car accident). I don't know why your sis is doin' it. Or what is up with your family but I know it stinks when this shit happens. Virtual hugs to you.
“Chance favors the mind that is prepared" - Louis Pasteur.
you need to PM me your measurments!!
and we are suppsoed to keep each other sunnyside up
some familes are just dysfunctional for so long, so many generatiosn they don;t know how to get healthy
and i have been doing seriosu work on the cycles and crap for almots 10 yrs now whiel my sister has just started to even really look at her pattersn in any earnestness VERY recently then she got cloudy vision after she decided to have a baby NOW and she really lost soem stabel groudning to teh point of denying major stuff inher relatiosnships and in our families bullshit
she like sto be superficial as it is easier than gettting really dirty diggingand cleaning, kwim?
"Do not speak--unless it improves on silence." ~ buddhist saying
that sucks! I am glad your nephew is born and doing well, but it is always a letdown when people don't want you around for a birth. Hope you get to see him soon.
stuff liek being so involved in say PDX's baby's birth even by internet and all that & how my sister views me in a totally off way when so many of da mamas see me how i am
HUGS to you
"Do not speak--unless it improves on silence." ~ buddhist saying
But wishing EVERYONE who's involved a happy start to kiddo's life!
and you knwo you will see me at brainy's baby's birth
and before that of course..jsut saying ..see taht is how it is???? brainy WANST me at hers but my own sister was soo rude and controlling and eeekkkk
HUGS
"Do not speak--unless it improves on silence." ~ buddhist saying
hey mama,
i would have loved to have you at mine. it was just me and carl NO body else. i'm sorry that this is happening, i know it hurts.
Jessica
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind~~Dr.Seuss
Jessica
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind~~Dr.Seuss
i am seriously considering doula & lactation consultant training this year if my other job doesnt solidifiy by mid march
"Do not speak--unless it improves on silence." ~ buddhist saying
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