New Wave Night

OMG, the DCE took me to New Wave City on Saturday night. This is a once-a-month club that happens at DNA lounge in SF. It's all '80's music--nay, all new wave music from the '80's--and people dress a little Adam Ant-ish. I felt kinda weird there. Honestly, I wasn't a huge Duran Duran, nor Visage, nor Culture Club fan, back in the day. But I did used to go to "New Wave Night" at the only bar in town that would play anything other than country music or Journey.
It was like a time warp (oh, yeh, Pet Shop Boys!), but, for me, an uncomfortable one. I really am old. In some ways. In many others, I am very in the moment (thanks, kids!, I love you!).
Most of the people in the bar were my age or older. It made me kinda sad. Plus, my teen years and early twenties were sooooo hard, thanks to my totally psycho mom. Hearing that music brought me back to that very lonely time.
Now, DCE had no intention of making me all melancholy. Of that I am certain. And I could not have predicted that particular reaction. Also, it wasn't all bad. Just had these fleeting moments of strangeness.
No, DCE wanted to show me a good time, and he did.
Also, and here's the interesting thing, I didn't realize until we got there, that he goes there quite often, and he has friends who go there. He was showing me this fun thing he likes to do (he had a shirt with epaulets. Slightly military, not quite Adam Ant), and, he was showing me off to his friends.
I'm glad I looked hot, BTW.
He got a very, very good review from one friend. That bodes well, I think.
We talked a lot, and we made out for a long time in the front of his car. He said that he hasn't made out in his car like that since he was a kid (kinda fit the theme of the evening, IMHO).
Again, I'm glad to have my children. DD15 stayed home by herself. If she wan't there, I might have invited him in, and it could have gotten fun, yet complicated, from there.
Here's where I stand. That whole idea that ONLYguys get close (kissing, sex, etc.) then withdraw, whereas girls get close, then want to snuggle, is, I think, a little off the mark. I'm fine, right now, with getting close, then backing off. This is all about MY needs.