Kimya Dawson and sharing your kids.
So I was watching this video:
Yeah, Kimya Dawson is the bomb. But beyond that, I was wondering how you guys feel about having to "share" your kid. I mean, for me, I don't feel like I have to share my kid with my kid's dad, because I'm scared of him. But beyond that, there is a crew of people who are related to my kid's dad, who feel like we are their family, much as I don't consider them my family. What's the deal? Do I have a responsibility to hang out and bring my kid over and make a relationship? But it's also just an interesting topic, I think. Do you feel obligated to share your kids with folks who dig them? My son's got a lot of people who care about him in his life, so that's not really the issue. I dunno. Kid hoarding: a legitimate accusation?
I feel strange sometimes, like people are using the boy to show how they have a kid in their life and make it about them instead of him. I try not to let it get to me though.
Thanks for sharing that awesome video!
and yeah, kid hoarding does happen.But,I feel like if people want to be around your kid then THEY should come to you, and it should require no effort on your part. I don't feel obligated to share my kid with anyone, except her father and that's because we are in a relationship still.
at one point in my life this was an issue with me because being a mama was my primary identity, but as time went on and I started working on myself as an individual as well as myself as a mother, I felt less apprehension about my kids spending time with other family members or at their friends' houses and stuff like that. I think if there is no issue of abuse then kids should definitely spend time with their fathers, most definitely. I would not consider that sharing, just natural.
I agree that if other family members want to see your kid that they should come to you, but if they're willing to do that then while it's not your responsibility to allow it, it would be nice of you. My dad is a total asshole- he has a 2-year-old daughter w/ his current girlfriend. When she realizes that she can't live with him anymore (which she will) I'd hate to see her cut her kid off from the rest of our family- y'know?
I do think other members of "his"meaning BD family have a right to see him, but only if you know these people and feel safe doing it.there are grandparents that sue now if they are not allowed to see their grandchildren. I wish i had more people to love nessa as all of my and carl's family live in Wi except for my folks and they come see her as much as they possibly can. I really wish there were more people around. she is such an awesome kid I love to share her to be honest.
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when I first had bubbas, folks were really into having a friend with a kid- we were such a novelty! Pretty funny.