I need to ditch this chick, and I don't know how.

My friend Aimee introduced me to Jess. Jess is the coolest...was the coolest girl I had met in a long time. She had waist length blonde hair, long legs, pretty smile, wore black cat framed glasses and smoked like a man. Her smile reminded me of Jack Kerouac. She also has a Grateful Dead dancing bear tattoed on her calf, so cool. Shes all into being beaten and tied up and weird shit and I thought 'What the hell, why not?' Plus she would drive me home from work anytime I'd ask even at two or four in the morning ( who in their right minds would do that unless they were just awesome) and she was just so much fun to talk to. Pretty soon, I was hanging out with Jess and not Aimee and all my efforts and hours of shameless flirting were paying of bigtime, and now Jess wants me bad.
So glad I didn't go there.
Right before the shit hit the fan at my homestead with internal organs blowup and anuses infecting and all that fun stuff I ran into Jess. She looked like hell. I of course asked her what was wrong and she started telling me about how her sister had had a nervous breakdown and somehow the police ended up being called. Her sister who is VERY poor and has four diffrent fathers for her four kids who none really want anything to do with their kids let alone pay support had told police they needed to come pick up the kids because she was feeling suicidal and was thinking about just killing herself AND the kids as a way out of this poverty ghetto no hope nightmare. Talk about heartwrenching!
The kids were taken to Jess's parents house where Jess also lives. The sister was taken to a psych ward. Jess was pissed! Jess was pissed that it had been two days, and she had to "deal " with the kids. Jess was pissed that she had to take her money (mind you she has NO bills besides her cell phone and her parents don't care if she lives at home indefinetly) and buy the kids necccessities. She was pissed at her sister and said that her sister "Made her own bed" and "Oh well", and "She keeps calling me like twenty times today checking up on her kids and its really annoying me." " I ain't taking care of these kids!" "She should have thought about this BEFORE she had kids!" And I know what you kind hearted hipmamas are thinking right now. Jess was misplacing her frustration at the situation and her grief for the kids. Oh, Domho quit being so judgemental, maybe theres some family history that you don't know about and her folks may be plumb tuckered out of bailing their daughter out of situations. Maybe her daughter is a drug addict that won't get help, don't be so quick to jump to conclusions. Well I have been doing this Jess thing for about six months and she has talked about her sister in nothing but a light and pleasant manner and Jess doesn't hold back anything on any subject. If anything shes a bit crass and opinionated and sometimes doesn't know when to withhold information. Her life is an open book. And I could see by the look in her eyes she was only feeling sorry for herself.
So, a day later Jess shows up. She is going off now about how put off she is. She won't let me get a word in edgewise. She is sputtering stupid things about how the worker needs to hurry up and get the kids out of the house because the'd be way better off in foster care. Of course I am trying my damndest to talk sense into her, especialy when she mentioned they'd be split up. No, no, the'd be better off, some nice family to take care of them. Jess working part time with no bills at 29 living at home with her folks would be too inconvienced and so would her parents. After all, it was her sister's responsibility, she didn't have to keep popping out babies with all these guys, "She Made her Bed."
Yes, I tried rationalizing with her. I tried telling her that Foster Care blows, that her sister may never get the kids back, they shouldn't be seperated, the state will give you money and food stamps to take care of your neices and nephews if you apply for it, and it would be emergency status. Jess was boasting about how she was telling the kids worker and her sister who was still calling everyhour from the psych ward basicaly to go fuck themselves, she was NOT getting up in the morning and driving the kids a whoping twenty minutes to school, she just wasn't. I was stunned and had to go to work. I was of course thinking about how well if its not up to Jess and her lovely parents to take care of the kids, I guess that left me. Instantly I knew that it wasn't an option. We have a two bedroom. Not that I would care, but being non-family and not even knowing these kids, the state would. My dude has warrants right now, I don't have beds and the state wouldn't just hand over those immediatly and therefore not give me the kids so they'd take them to a house with beds. I am assuming we would both fail drug tests for grass (him)or pills (me from painkillers that I had no prescription for) so there gos that idea, POOF!
So now Jess is happy. The kids are gone. Everything is just ducky and she wants to see me, and she wants to take things to the next level, and now I don't even want to be friends. But she shows up where I work ( I am too busy) and Aimee, is really pushing Jess on me. She even wanst to know why i am avoiding Jess, but I know Aimee and she wouldn't keep it between us. She'd just make Jess promise not to tell me. I will keep running into Jess who is all trying to be all over me hardcore, but now she just is so unattractive to me. I don't even want to ever talk to her again.I know that may to some of you seem much, but hey, I can't help the way that I feel and I feel like somebody that I want in a place like that in my life wouldn't have punked out and was so inconvienced. And Jess has a kid that lives with her FAX, so its not like she doesn't know what its like. I just KNOW if I say why I don't need her in my life it will start shit because nobody likes to be called out on neglecting kids and then people will feel like they are in the middle, ect. ect.
Thanks for listening, mamas
P.S. It really pisses me off too that our mutual friends don't give a damn cus it doesn't effect their lives, and some even focus more on the woman having four men for fathers of her four kids, like she deserves this because thats such an awful thing, an abomination.Grrrrrr.