i apologize in advance- i am drunk. its 4am. the kids are at fax's, and SO is in england.
i went out tonight with two gf's i really adore and love. we went to a bar with dancing, then another, and finally a third near the state university. it was here i ran into an ex. an ex i had prior to kids.
he asked how the kids were. he then asked if they were members of the taliban yet.
i know i am ignorant to race issues. i am starting to pursue my unlearning of racism. i have books ordered. i am really excited to be woking on this.
so, i decked him. i had a belly full of whiskey, and i am a mama, first and foremost. i hope he wakes tomorrow with a black eye. i know its not right, but its what i did. i was kicked out of the bar, permanently. 86'd. i screamed how it was ok that he was making racist comments but not ok for me to defend my children, my fellow human beings.
i can honestly say, i never knew racism until i had bi-racial children. i cannot even compare this experience to being a POC, to dealing with it on a daily basis.
i want to thank the mamas here for opening my eyes to racism, helping me to see what was so transparent to me before.
thank you.
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"Convictions are more dangerous enemies of truth than lies." - Nietzsche
What an asshole! I can't
What an asshole! I can't believe that came out of someone's mouth! Glad to hear that you tried to shove it back in.
LOL! Mindful Mothering
LOL!
Mindful Mothering
Mindful Mothering
whoa mama!
i don't like to condone violence, but hell yeah, missamanda. wow. what an ignorant motherfucker, to say something like that.
i hear you on not really knowing racism until having biracial children. i studied oppression theory in my women's studies classes, i attended trainigs,etc, but it was all esoteric to me and easy to not confront my own shit until i had my kid.
people say such f*ed up shit. i am glad you decked him.
"we seek not rest but transformation. We are dancing through each other as doorways." ~ Marge Piercy
good for you, mama.
"Here I am. Rock you like a hurricane."
-The Scorpions
"Here I am. Rock you like a hurricane."
-The Scorpions
You are AWESOME.
I have a problem responding quickly when stuff like this happens to me, but whiskey is courage water and I would've done the same thing. That guy deserves a black eye. maybe his eyesocket bone will be all fucked up. HE DESERVES IT. what a douche. non-violence is good but sometimes assholes need to get a taste of their own mess. yeah, i'm not being the best bohdisattva right now but oh well.
as i started reading i
as i started reading i thought, I hope she punched him. i squealed with joy when i got to "so, i decked him."
you are so freakin cool mama.
hell hath no fury like a mama scorned.
"Before I was a Mom I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body." ~Anonymous
Whoops
Double-posted again, damn wireless..I'll edit this last one.
No WAY!
I am a pacifist generally...but I am tickled as all get out. Mommamichelle is right, it's kinda hot.
I'm a little hung up on why HE wasn't the one 86'd permanantly, though. What the hell ever on that, I guess.
I tip my mama hat to you, MissA.
good on ya.
When its about your kids, it cuts so deep.
One for the team!
He deserved it!
wicked!
good on ya!!! i agree with the non-violent-ness, but with a belly full of wiskey, and with the books not being read yet, i totally think you did a good thing. he deserved it!!
hope the hangover isnt too bad.
a little me
and some more...
Rock on, MissA
Here's to a belly full whiskey, and hoping you did some permanent damage.
Just curious: What bar was it?
I'd love to have a beer with you next time I'm in Phoenix or you're in Chi-town.
What an asshole!
I can't believe he said that... usually after receiving an ignorant/mean/inappropriate remark, I'm too stunned to react. But you... that was freaking awesome that you decked him. I'm so sorry you had to deal with his racist ignorance on your girls' night out, though.
You go Amanda!
You had every right to deck him and I would've done the same thing. Strange that you are the one who got kicked out of the bar(it should have been him) but it was worth it. Man, that guy is such an ignorant jerk.
wow. i don't condone
wow. i don't condone violence and i've never been turned on by it, either but, wow. i don't have anything intellectual to contribute AT ALL but i do want to say that... imagining you doing that is... well, hot. how's your hand? sorry he was an idiot. i'm sure the next time someone says something so fucking stupid to you, you'll be more prepared to slam them with something verbal. take care of yourself today, mama.
Mindful Mothering
Mindful Mothering
I really don't condone violence EVER
and I giggling and happy that you decked him. I hope he has a black eye too.