3 kids? is it just too hard?
we are very very seriously considering having number 3. i will be 36 in january. is that too old? is it totally hard to have 3 kids? are we insane?
we are both excited about the idea.
Nah, it's not too hard. And you're not too old. And your kids are a great age for having a baby around...I know because my kids are of comparable ages and they ADORE the baby and actually help me out quite a bit. They're also independent enough and mature enough to understand if they just have to wait a minute for something, or if they need to play nicely for 30 minutes so I can nap after the baby kept me up all night long.
I was laid back with #1 and 2, but I feel like even so much more laid back with number three. We have a fraction of the crappy plastic baby paraphernelia around because I know we don't actually need any of it. Plus, he's got the best two interactive toys in the world: a big sister and brother.
I only have 2 kids right now, but will be thinking of having another one within the year.
No, you're not too old to have another one. If you're excited about it, go for it. It may be something you regret in the future if you don't. YOu will have so much help from your older 2 and you will already know what to expect with a baby, so you'll be a pro.
Good luck with your decision. I think all mothers are a little bit insane no matter how many they have!
I really want to have more kids. I hope to talk DH into having a third when Maggie is nearing Kindergarden.
And no you're not too old. My grandmother had her 9th baby when she was 41. The older kids help.
"Before I was a Mom I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body." ~Anonymous
Nah, three's not so bad. Just a little louder.
"It's a gift to be simple. It's a gift to be free." Shaker hymn.
we needed to buy a bigger car. We could have technically used the smaller one still but it was a major pain in my ass and took forever getting in and out of the car (so squishy with 3 carseats, sooo hard to buckle)
Otherwise, I can't say there are other cons for us. Sure, some things suck sometimes, but they sucked sometimes with just one kid. Now there is so much love and giggling and fun that all the sucky stuff is minimized that much more.
The hardest thing for me and for most mamas of more-than-one I have talked to was going from 1 kid to 2 kids. Once you have the swing of managing 2 kids a third is no more work, in my opinion, especially if you have a nice age cushion between the oldest and youngest, which you will have.
Hey now, sister, watch it with those "too old" comments! 
My situation is different, as you know, I went from one to four in the span of about a week. But the age spacing helps (available boys when I have to shower, etc.) and all the kids love Allie to death.
I really don't see too many cons. Like Gigi, it sucks with a smaller car (but now I have my big cruiser, which has more space than anyone needs). I guess I really should have thought more about things like braces (SS14 has them now) and college funds (SS16 is two years away). But so far as general lovey stuff, or family upheaval, we've been pretty blessed.
And PS - any child would be lucky to have you for a mom.
"Step off my big ass."
- Anthromom
especially if you are one of these overachiever type people. My friend and I who both have three children were commenting that in some ways it is easier than two. Possibly because you stop trying to drag them everywhere and do as much as you do with two. With three you are made aware daily that life as you know it without children is completely and totally over and there is no way to pretend. Therefore, you are forced to slow down and deal with llife on life's terms because there is no controlling it. I definitely feel it has made my other two better people.
"But is it my manner that keeps her from hearing, or the threat of a message that her life may change?"
-Audre Lorde
yipee!!!!!
"Before I was a Mom I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body." ~Anonymous
So glad you're excited. It's rubbing off on me. Maybe I'll have to start trying for a third sooner than later. Hmmmmm....
Good luck, start walking and taking those vitamins!
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you have me even more excited. we have basically 3 right now b/c we are raising dh's neice, but she's so helpful and no work at all (almost 15) and she's only with us half time.
ok, now let's help me lose a few pounds so i can be healthy during a future pregnancy! going for a nice long walk in the gorgeous weather today and tell my womb to think about health. folic acid here i come.