Househunting and cohabiting
One shithole down, hopefully better prospects to come. My bf and I looked at a house last night (the slumlord who showed it to us simply *had* to be joking--there's no other explanation) and are going to look at another one tonight in hopes of finding a place and moving in by the beginning of October. And, I never thought I'd say this, but it was exciting to go through and make a rough budget for ourselves last night to see where we stand (came out better than I thought we would)! All things considered, it's going to be really nice to share expenses. But on the more fun side of that, I am simply THRILLED that we are going to be living together, will have our family together, will get to share the holidays together. We've had an interesting summer, but I think this is a really good thing that is going to last a long time. He is my best friend and a really wonderful support. We've grown and learned a lot together in the past 10 and a half months. Anyway, after nearly three years of single parenting, I feel like I should make a grats list of all of the things that will be nice about cohabiting (although I'm sure that some things I won't know until they happen)....such as....
1) being able to leave the house to run an errand after bedtime if necessary (I haven't been able to leave my house after 8 p.m. in years!)
2) reading in bed together!
3) having family dinners together
4) no more scrambling to find a babysitter for two hours on a Sunday morning when I want to go to a meditation session at the local dharma center
5) decorating for holidays together!
6) our kids will get to be together every weekend (and trust me--these two freaking love each other--they talk often about how much they love each other--they are a year and a half apart and different genders but they play together swimmingly)
7) entertaining together
decorating the house together (it's always fun to see how your tastes mesh)
As I said, I'm sure I will find many more once we're actually in the house! If you think of it, mamas, send us good house vibes tonight...
yah Iyende was 5 when I met Brian and almost 7 when we started dating and 8 when we moved in together. So she knew Brian as mommy's friend, and has since simply called him Brian. She does refer to him as her dad or father though to other people. Scott was a newborn when we met and about 18 months or so when we started dating, so he's alway known Brian as his father. We gave them both the option to call Brian as dad, and Scott did when he was small but as he got older called him Brian more, copying Iyende. Todd also calls him mostly Brian, copying the older 2 I guess. They all 3 call me Trula (or mom, sometimes Trula Mama) so maybe they just like using our names.
What an exciting time 
Good house vibes coming attcha.
"It's a gift to be simple. It's a gift to be free." Shaker hymn.
you so deserve this, mama. i am so thrilled for you
"we seek not rest but transformation. We are dancing through each other as doorways." ~ Marge Piercy
I am SO happy for you!!!
Boomer is so 2005.
{{{Good house and home vibes}}}
sounds wonderful mama, i'm happy for you!
"Before I was a Mom I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body." ~Anonymous
you deserve to have this happen for you.i know we don't always see eye to eye but you are very kind and considerate and i really think you have some good coming to ya mama. i know you will find the perfect house for your family.
Jessica
"What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly."~~~~~Richard Bach
Jessica
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind~~Dr.Seuss
i had no idea! vibes, vibes, vibes. i'm SO happy for you. Happier than I can even express. I think you two are really fantastic together and it broke my heart to see you both so upset. I know I haven't been around much and am really on the outskirts of all of this, but please know you have my full support as I knew from the day we all went to the concert downtown that you two would be great together. I hope you find everything you're looking for. You both deserve it and more. Cheers to happiness!
So happy things worked out for you two!
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Very exciting!
Hey, by the way, I was wondering about how the whole SO/BF/new husband thing should work with the kids? How do you explain that to little kids? Did you give them the option of what to call Brian after you two moved in together/got married? I know Iyende was a little older but Scott was still pretty small, right? Hope you don't mind me asking. Was curious about how to work that. I've mentioned to Selah that we might be moving into a new house soon but haven't really discussed who else will be living with us yet and how I will explain all of that. Any thoughts?