Thanks for thoughts on custody

Just wanted to say thank you to those who offered thoughts on the custody issue that I posted about last week. I appreciate all of the suggestions. I'm not sure whether it came across in my post or not but the custody issue and a child's ability to be involved with both of his or her parents is something that I take very seriously. The conflict that I was feeling when I posted had to do with the fact that a) here's a little kid who I care about very much, and I'm worried about his well-being in his mom's house, but b) it breaks my heart to think about any child not being able to live with or spend a good deal of time with his or her mama. I recognize the issues that my own daughter has and could continue to have due to the fact that both of her parents are not actively involved in her life; thus, I feel like any action that a parent (*either* parent) could take that might affect a kids' involvement with the other parent should be very carefully considered. I know that a lot of people have certain concerns about the reasons that a father might try to get full custody of a child. All I can say, without going into laborious detail about that, is that I think the concern here is purely for the well-being of the child, and nothing else.

Anyway, I don't think any major action is going to be taken right now. For the time being, I have sent an email to my bf's ex trying to open up a line of communication with her. She has not responded. My bf has expressed to her his concern and has asked that she please talk to him about certain things that might be going on and affecting their son's life; she has not responded to him, either. Members of her family have tried to contact her as well--again, no response. We shall see. Again, thank you.