Feeling a little sick to my stomache *edit*
I haven't had much in the way of communication with Selah's dad in quite a while. The communication that we have had in recent months has not been very positive or productive. Anyway, I sent out an email update today to family and friends about some things that Selah is doing. I always include him on the email list. Sent the email to his work address and it immediately got returned. Like one of those automated returns. You know, the kind of thing that you get when a person's email address isn't valid anymore because they've lost their job. I tried to call him but no answer. I haven't checked my bank statement recently to see whether I've been receiving child support recently or not. In a week where I have learned that my daughter's already-way-expensive childcare is going to go up $60 per month, finding out that I won't be receiving child support anymore because he lost his job would really, really suck.
I know I'm jumping to some major conclusions here. Maybe their email is having problems. But I'm also having flashbacks to the days that I knew Selah's dad well, and losing jobs regularly (generally to go on drinking/cocaine binges) was one of his strong points. It isn't that it's all about the child support, by the way, but considering that he lives 11 hours away and has only visited once in the past two years, child support is pretty much the only support that I get from the dude. It's definitely a big help where daycare is concerned.
Anyway, here's hoping that I am, in fact, jumping to conclusions. Dammit.
**edit: update: Just got a text message from him. He is, in fact, unemployed. Lovely.
~~~~~~~~steady child support vibes~~~~~~~.I hope he's o.k. for your money's sake and just because he's her dad.
Jessica
"What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly."~~~~~Richard Bach
Jessica
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind~~Dr.Seuss
I am hoping it is not because he is on a binge and that he gets employed again soon. And I will also send vibes for some extra luck to come your way to fill in some of these gaps. Sorry mama. hang in there. Vibing vibing vibing you.
I am so sorry. Hopefully he will find another job quickly.
Boomer is so 2005.
ugh. that made me feel sick too. sorry, mama. this is tough. do you suppose you have to have conversations with him now re: $$ support?
"we seek not rest but transformation. We are dancing through each other as doorways." ~ Marge Piercy
shit. i'm sorry and in the same boat (only no cocaine binge) bd say he'll be out of a job soon.
does selah's school have scholarships? may you could get one.
"Stealin', stealin', pretty mama don't you tell on me
I'm stealin' back to my same old used to be" The Memphis Jug Band
"Stealin', stealin', pretty mama don't you tell on me
I'm stealin' back to my same old used to be" The Memphis Jug Band
Shitty, and shitty you had to do detective work to find out.
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I've always felt as though it was a pretty nice gesture, although he seems somehow still think I'm a bitch who spends my life badmouthing him every second I get and that my updates are no more than a piddle in a bucket. Asshole.