I don't get it = a little vent
It's been hot up here in our neck of the woods. Late yesterday afternoon some pretty big storms rolled in - hail and 60 mph winds in our neighborhood - and then quit about 7 p.m. when the sun starting peeking out.
So, I told S to put her shoes on that we were going to go out chasing rainbows and jumping in puddles.
She asked if Lucy (our dog) and daddy were coming. I said "Of course!" The dog was more than willing but my I had to twist my husbands arm! I just don't get how he would be unwilling to come outside with us for a half-hour to play. To just revel in the freshness after the storm. To see the joy on his daughters face as she skipped down the sidewalk and found every puddle on our block to jump in. Why would he want to just sit on his ass and watch the idiot box instead of spend time with S - on the days she goes to daycare we only spend 3 hours in the evening with her!
I think I just needed to get that off my chest. Phew. My husband is still not working. It is frustrating. I am sure I am hypercritical but really I just don't get it.
funny that they get to choose when to be lazy, coz mom will always do it.
*bliss*
My husband was sitting at the computer a few minutes after I took the training wheels off of our 5yr old's bike... I thought "what is wrong with him, it's a beauitful day and a great opportunity to teach our child something he will never forget."
Sometimes papas (& mamas) don't realize the importance of those little moments.
"If I could tell the world one thing, it would be we're all okay"-Jewell
I have to force dh to do certain things with the kids. It just doesn't excite him to watch them swim or blow bubbles. He's a very loving father, but he just doesn't like to play. He's very cerebral, so I'm guessing he'll be much better with them when it comes to homework and science projects. In the meantime, I go around singing "Cat's in the Cradle" a lot.
Some days it bugs me, and some days I can take it in stride. I read a book about parenting that talks about relating to a child who is an introvert (like my DH) when you yourself are an extrovert (like me). Sometimes when given a choice of being alone or with people (even his own family)he would really rather be alone. Especially, in my DH's case, if it is a spur of the moment plan, which I relish. Me, I have a hard time taking a shower if someone else is home and awake bc I miss being with them.
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Sunflower the unflower
My DH is a total introvert too. And I'm not. And it sucks. We've kinda worked out a system of sorts, I give him time alone and he doesn't get pissy about me going out without him all the time. We still go out together sometimes, but mostly I go to things without him, even when he's previously agreed to go, most of the time he decides at the last minute he'd rather stay home.
"And a political candidate who jumps to conclusions without knowing the facts is not a person you want as your Commander-in-Chief."
-George W. Bush
on the introvert/extrovert thing here.
also on the changing mind at the last minute thing.
arrgh. men. 
Wow! This happened to me yesterday. I wanted to take the kids down to the beach and my DH just wanted to stay home. We have not done anything as a family in like a month b/c we have been so damn busy. I got upset and he finally said he would go but before that he said, "Fine, you got your way." What? I got my way? Is my way wanting you to spend time with allof us as a family at the beach? Wow, I am such a demanding bitch!
he pressures (he would say encourages) me to go walking to shed the weight, but never wants to go walking with me (us, now). Even when I was pregnant, I was walking alot by myself, while he stayed home-yup with the tv on, or doing some hobby.
I naturally feel a bit more vunerable with a baby in a stroller, or in my belly especially, and a bit of company would be nice.
Seems like he wants me to get mad and pout in order for him to come, then the walk is not enjoyable! sometimes I feel like I just can't win, and just go walking without him.
He has no idea how much he misses out.
Even just everyday at home, when he doesn't pay attention to our girl and she does something amazing, I used to try and tell him right afterwards, now I don't bother.
is then he feels left out when DS demonstrates a preference for me. I want to say, if you don't want him to prefer me, how about you play with him a bit more?
Of course my DH plays with DS, it's just sometimes, well, the idiot box or the list of tasks get the better of him.
I am going to try that one out. My DH NEVER gets up with him unless I am travelling. Even on weekends. I just can't resist going to him. But I am going to try it.
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He is working his way there, for sure. We've talked about it. He wasn't working for about 3 months last year and it was horrible!
He is in a tough spot job-wise. He had the same job for over 10 years and since parting ways with them he has bounced around (5 jobs in 4 years).
What is really hard is that he hasn't had a lot of crap jobs to fall back on (is. waiting tables, working in a coffee shop, retail, cleaning houses, bartending) because when he was younger his dad would always let him work summers for his business. He mostly did some driving and some warehouse work there. So, he basically "holds out" for a good job instead of just doing something in the meantime. At the same time, he doesn't want our quality of life to change at all!
Add in that while I don't make a ton of dough (I do make enough for us to limp along on) but I am generally considered to be successful as I own my own business.
It is a stressful time at our house, to be sure.
I did ask him about this cuz' it was bugging me. I basically said I wasn't judging him but I kind of just didn't get it. We were having such nice family time and then he wanted to ditch out. Why.
He told me he was just being lazy.
I get that. I truly do. I like to be lazy, too. I just feel like it I need to be lazy AFTER S goes to bed.