I just thought I'd butt in here (my first post, this topic has brought me out of the darkness and into the light, HI everybody)
But have you considered using sympto-thermal natural family planning? There are no hormones, no contraptions, and if you use it in combination with abstinence, no barriers. It is 100% endorsed by the Catholic church, has a good reliabilty rate with careful attention and could be really supportive to your relationship.

This is not the "rhythm method" which depends on calendar calculations. This method relies on observation of your own fertility signs and learning how to recognize those signs and avoid intercourse when you're fertile. It sounds like in your situation this would involve periods of abstinence (typically a week to 10 days/cycle) but if the question of bc is interfering with your marriage, it could be well worth it. Lots of couples come to appreciate that time either because it makes the loving more special when it reconvenes or because it gives them an enforced opportunity to explore alternative ways to love each other. It takes attention and cooperation, another good thing in that your DH could get involved and that takes the burden off of you and turns this issue away from conflict and toward cooperation.

In the interests of full disclosure I must confess that I am a mama in waiting right now due to a miscalculation but this thread alone shows that no method is perfect. Up to this summer we had over 3 years of perfect success with the benefits of no hormonal side-effects and fantastically enhanced understanding of my fertility and my body.

It can be done while breastfeeding although obviously it would be more difficult, perhaps your DH can be slightly flexible on the condom issue until you get up and running.

Check out this book: Taking Charge of Your Fertility, could be good for you.

-Misschris

it was exactly the kind of info i was looking for before going to my appointment today. i love hipmama.

If you are ok with the hormones in a pill, I used to be on Ortho Tri-Cyclen, and it was great. I got off it so that I could become pregnant. Right now, since I'm still nursing, I am on Errin which is a POP (Progestin Only Pill).

If you don't want the hormones, or you want something a little more flexible, you could try spermicide gels or I hear that the Today Sponge is coming back. You can order them online, or check to see if they are in your area, since they just started making them again. www.todaysponge.com/

Peace,

Lyana

I'm lovin my IUD, but you might have problems pushing that one past DH due to the Catholic thing.

every sperm is good
every sperm is needed
in your neighborhood

Mr FOZ seems to be warming up to getting the snip. i hate condoms, but that's what i am using right now, because i was tired of being on the pill. the next option in my list is the IUD.

"I've done a lot of things in my life I ain't too proud of, and the things I am proud of are disgusting." - Mo Szyslak

when i was a teen i was on depo, the shot you get every 12 weeks. it was horrible. i wouldn't have my period for 3-4 months than have it, and it would last up to 2 months. my sister had 2 kids on norplant, and i had twins on the pill...but i switched brands and have had no mishaps since. my friend loved the patch until a recent study said it was far more likely(i can't recall the percentage, but it was crazy high) to cause blood clots and strokes than the pill. now shes using the nuva ring, which is inserted into your vagina and pressed against your cervix, and changed every week. this works well for her, she would never remember to take a pill every day.
if you don't want to go the hormonal route, theres always the spermicidal lube combined with the pull out.
good luck, i'm intersted to see what you choose.