LONG DH Vent

Can I just vent for a minute about DH? He is generally a good guy, I believe he truly loves me, and he is a great Dad (when he's home). Lately though he is about to push me over the edge! First, I have been sensing that he was having some self esteem issues lately. He is gaining weight, tired all the time, and constantly complaining about work, but refusing to look for another job. So any time I needed is emotional support or help with something he starts telling me how tired and overwhelmed he is. He keeps asking me to help him find some things to help him feel better. I suggested he take a walk, look for a new job, stop eating fast food and bringing home ice cream, make lists, journal, or go talk to someone (this option helped him a TON in the past.) but he gets mad or says that he agrees, but then does nothing. I am starting to struggle some myself and when I turn to him for support, he tells me that it is too hard for him to support me when he feels so bad himself. While I understand that I feel like I have been asking him for months to help himself and he won't, but now when I need him he can't be there for me because he has not dealt with his own issues. Part of why I am struggling is that he is gone at least 12 hours a day and I am by myself with our 9 month old. I have little options for help (no family, few close friends, and little money for professional childcare.) So I have been sending out his resume to places near where my family lives. Which he agreed was the best move for us, and we have started getting some responses finally. Plus, neither one of us really loves the city we live in. His company just combine 2 branches into a brand new facility (of course father from our house). They moved this weekend and after going in to test the computer systems he comes home with a new home guild for the area they moved to. I of course got pissed! We don't like the city we live in, it was just rated one of the top 10 most dangerous cities in the US, he hates his job, I am alone and miserable, and I have a job up north if I move there. But one of the guys at work has told him that at some point in the future there might be some other position opening up. So now we are looking at staying despite everything we talked about because someone said that at SOME POINT he MIGHT be able to get a position that he MIGHT like better??? I feel like he is living in his own little word and DD and I are just visitors there. He is so guarded sometimes I can't tell if he is telling me the truth or just what he thinks I want to hear. In the end he does whatever he wants to do anyway. I was feeling better yesterday, like I was moving forward. Now I feel depressed and frustrated again!