keep my eyes open. . .i am the kind of person that functions on research and the exhaustion of options. i am still keeping fingers crossed that it is "a phase", but am realistic about my options if his behavior gets increasingly wacky or if the religious fervor amplifies to absolute deafening levels. as i said before we've negotiated certain issues o.k. . . .it's really just the sex thang (which is, of course, about power, intimacy, etc. . .important stuff so i shouldn't say "really just"). i'll keep you posted