so last night when we were reading before bed DD (almost 4) kept fiddling around and rubbing her crotch so i asked her why and she said "because i like to. it feels all smudgey and good."
i totally didn't expect to have to be giving my three year old a talk about masturbation. i told her that most of us think it feels good to touch our vaginas and penises and it's nice to do sometimes, but that it's a private thing and it can make other people uncomfortable if we do it around them. i told her she can do it whenever she wants as long as it's in private, and she was like "oh, okay." and we moved on and finished the book.
i'm not worried about it, but it totally throws me off that she discovered this so early. i don't think i realized i could make good stuff happen down there until i was 8 or 9. it's inevitable, kids become sexual beings eventually, but damn...nobody told me that some of the dora the explorer set like to touch themselves. i looked it up online out of curiosity and was shocked to see how many people were worried about it and looking for ways to make their young daughters stop touching themselves. i was also surprised at how many people commented that they think it's a symptom of sexual abuse. my instinct was that it's just a normal part of development, nothing to be concerned about at all.
just curious and looking for some hip mama input about this. would you be worried in this case?