weaning early

KathErin's picture

Hi everyone. I had to wean my son at age 13 months because I have a condition I need tot ake medicine for, that I can't take while nursing. I still feel guilty about it and sorry about it, he was very sad and I was too. It was about five months ago. Has anyone stopped nursing around then? Is your kid okay or does he have attatchment issues and all that jazz? He's just wanting to be on his own (though a satelite) so much - I miss the holdinbg and closeness, because I thought it was really good for him. Its hard to get him to settle down and cuddle now and I worry he doesn't get enough of that. Ah well. Does anyone else think about this stuff?
Thanks
Katherine

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Monarda's picture
Submitted by Monarda on

and he is just FINE and very well (sometimes too well!) attached to me :-). he is not as snuggly a kid as I'd like but he gets it whenever he wants it. Don't worry mama your babe is great, he's got you for a mama and you obviously love him to pieces, that's what he needs.

Acony Bell's picture
Submitted by Acony Bell on

maggie weaned on her own at 9.5 months... much to my dismay.
she is as attached as she was while nursing. some kids just go through phases where they don't want to snuggle. i'm sure i will be crushed when maggie does.

"I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life's a bitch. You've got to go out and kick ass." ~Maya Angelou

Ruby of the Moon's picture

You actually picked a perfect time for mother-led weaning. At least a year of breastmilk is great - and at 12-13 months babies are very active and independent so this is the age that would be reccomended if you were not planning on extended breastfeeding. I think he'll be fine! He had a whole year+ of his mama's milk! I weaned my first around this age (I didn't know about extended bf back then) and he is fine. He is now 11 and one of the healthiest, smartest, happiest kids I know. It's normal for them to branch off and be self-sufficient at this age, he is just exploring the world. Give yourself a ***round of applause*** for breastfeeding him for so long!

"If I could tell the world one thing, it would be we're all okay"-Jewell

Monarda's picture
Submitted by Monarda on

congrats on going for so long! that is right mamaruby, every mama who does that should feel proud! this world makes it damn tough to BF I think....way to go for being committed for as long as you have.

motherfluffer's picture

got any tips to share?

sorry to hijack--perhaps i'll post this as its own topic- but i'm desperate for some guidance here. my DD is 13.5mo an i need to wean her soon because i'm going to be away from her for a week next month. she really has no desire to stop and, in fact, seems to want to BF more than ever now. she's eating all the time these days, and they're really balanced meals, so i know her wanting to BF is more for comfort than nutrition. i've been trying to wean her gently since she turned 1 and its just not happening. i swear she knows its coming to an end and is clinging on to my boobs as if to say "no way am i giving this up!"

KathErin's picture
Submitted by KathErin on

Hi, well what we did is cut back on all day feedings at first, and just do morning and night...that itself was a very slow process...it had to feel okay. Then we took out early morning feedings. Night was the last to go, and the one he really missed. I would have kept going if I could, but life happens I guess.
Good luck

KathErin's picture
Submitted by KathErin on

Hi, well what we did is cut back on all day feedings at first, and just do morning and night...that itself was a very slow process...it had to feel okay. Then we took out early morning feedings. Night was the last to go, and the one he really missed. I would have kept going if I could, but life happens I guess.
Good luck

KathErin's picture
Submitted by KathErin on

Hi, well what we did is cut back on all day feedings at first, and just do morning and night...that itself was a very slow process...it had to feel okay. Then we took out early morning feedings. Night was the last to go, and the one he really missed. I would have kept going if I could, but life happens I guess.
Good luck

Damaged Roses's picture

My oldest self weaned at 12 months and is just fine!:) She's still pretty attached now, in fact she is sitting on my lap getting snuggle time in as I'm typing this and she's 3.
Now my youngest.. well thats another story, she may be on the boobie for quite some time still, when my oldest was this age she was only nursing morning and night, the youngest still goes 5-7 times a day. Just more proof that every kid is different.

A year is fantastic and you should not feel bad about weaning at 13 months, you should be proud you did for a whole year!:) You need to take care of yourself, because if you're not well, he's not well. You're doing fine.

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