WARNING: explicit question, still valid

Domesticated Houseslave's picture

opinions please.

A friend recently confided in me that her husband, and his friend will watch porn together and masturbate. In the same room. Okay, I think thats gay. All I can do is put myself in that situation and think that first of all, nothing has ever made me so hot that I need to touch myself that second, and if I did ever masturbate in a room with another human being in it, which I just don't see happening, them being there would attribute to the sexual experience. I pass no judgments, and didn't even say anything then other than laugh, cus I have tact and I am certainly not going to report anything back cus its not my place and I do not care. I also think that as much as I think I know about men, one thing remains the same. In female to male sex changes that I have only seen through the power of television, every time, the participant always tells the documentarian how they are blown away by the testosterone injections and the ramifications of that testosterone on their sex drive, urges, and thinking processes. they essentially report on damn near possession,and that has to be true because there are no strip clubs for women, ( gay men go there) and there are no whore houses, and men walk the streets for other men, so it could be possible they are just so sexualy charged and can block out the other man, but still being a psych major and a curious person I stand by my opinion that there is some underlying homo eroticism to this.

This is not the first time i have heard of this happening! The first time my friend told me her two male friends routinely did this, one would be driving and the other would sit in the back for I guess more privacy, and then the second time was when a male friend of mine who was living in a frat house reported that two of the guys that lived there would sit in a room and do this regularly.

Yes, men are dogs, and sometimes they are gay dogs, and sometimes straight men aren't 100% straight. I think its got a queer element, but you know they are looking at girls so in their minds it can be passed off as straight.

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bleu7102's picture
Submitted by bleu7102 on

So what if it does have a gay element to it? I mean, these guys would probably never admit to that, and I have no clue if it really does have anything to do with that. But if it does, so what? Is it just that they would be denying the truth to themselves? I don't think it's quite that deep most of the time.

MommyIsADiva's picture

I'm a bit blown away but to each his own. I personally couldn't see me and dh inviting a friend into that situation but then again we don't watch porn either. I just don't know what to say just wow!

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~In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different
Coco Chanel~

Fate- is when you don't know the name of the person screwing you over

Domesticated Houseslave's picture

i think the whole scenario is just something I could never imagine happening. And I am a psych major so I scrutinize and look into absolutely everything. The first man I told this to was convinced it was gay because in his mind, he would never do anything like that and thought like I did, that it was a shared experience, not a singular hormone driven act of release. The second man i talked to didn't agree with me.

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Submitted by bleu7102 on

I do agree that it's a weird situation, at least to me. I know my husband would never do that, when we've seen scenes in movies or whatever where they do that he's all like "Oh my god, who even does that?!". But then again, to me, it's akin to two couples doing it in the same room or something. Not like, where two couples actually get together and have a foursome or something, where they really are all *together* at the same time. But like, and this is the best example I can come up with cause I live in spring break capitol, if two college guys bring a couple of girls back to their hotel room and have sex at the same time, in different beds. Those guys would totally just think of it in some macho way, like, "Yeah, we just scored! Ohhh, we are so the man!". Those are the same guys I could see maybe wanking in the same room, back at the frat house or something. I think they would think it's the farthest thing from being gay.
Anyways, I don't know what actually goes through their minds about it. I'd be kinda curious to know, too.

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Submitted by Glamorous on

More like group sex. While the participants like having the company, they are not excited by the other guy. What they are sharing is the common experience of enjoying porn.

I have heard of guys masturbating at bachelor parties when strippers and/or sex shows are part of the activities. They may be elbow-to-elbow, but their eyes stay on the entertainment.

Think of it under the same umbrella as calling your best friend to join you for a hot fudge sundae...it's more fun because the two of you are enjoying the experience simultaneously. You may talk about how great it was, or what menu choices looked best to you, but you ate your own sundae and she ate hers, and your spoons stayed out of each other's plates.

The line from hot fudge to HOT fudge would be crossed if the experience was arranged so that they could watch one another masturbate and climax. As long as the eyes are staying on the TV screen, it sounds heterosexual to me.

Glamorous

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bleu7102's picture
Submitted by bleu7102 on

I think that makes the most sense. I don't believe the guys that do this are turned on by each other (well, I'm sure there are some that are, but that's a whole other issue). They just like to do the same thing, and apparently aren't bothered by doing it next to each other. But they don't want to do it TO each other. I guess.

.shady.lady.'s picture

i mean - look at mainstream movies; alla the bromances and then those stupid flicks that always have some cropped shot of a chic's ass or legs or tits on the cover, where all the dudes run around flashing their genitals at other dudes, to prove their total heterosexuality (?)...fer real.
as fer those dudes who are jackin' it on the couch, together, i wish that it was cool fer them to admit they're kinda gay and then just get on with it, ya know?
i also agree with mr. filth, that no one is 100% straight or gay.
i, personally, identify as easy.
(i think that's so funny.)
skl

Reverend Mother's picture

and I'm a pastor for heaven's sake!

While I have no beef with the argument that sexuality is on a continuum, I don't thing men masturbating with friends is particularly gay. As a woman does it ook me out? Certainly. But I realize that women and men don't think of same gendered friendships in the same kinds of ways. I bet those men jerking off together probably would never share a bed on a trip, or link arms on a walk, or hug in public, as I would do with any girl friend of mine. They'd probably see activities like that as "too gay."

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Submitted by denessasma on

i too am laughin mama dudes do this? yowser!altho i have been horny enough to have to touch myself i once masterbated in a..... well a strange place :) i kno im freaky sorry anyway i would agree gay tendencies. 2 dudes shareing a sexual experience would be homosexual in nature by definition hmmmm.i've masterbated when other people where sleeping in the room but never like a gang masterbation session. anyway those r my thoughts

Jessica
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind~~Dr.Seuss

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