I have been a member of this community for three years and twenty two weeks.
In three years and twenty two weeks, I have shared with this group my stories of dating, marriage, pregnancy, childbirth, and parenthood. I have shared my work stories, friend stories, and sex stories. I have vented, ranted, and raved. I have shared my joy and I have asked for (and receive) so much support when I was in pain.
I appreciate each and every mama on here who has been a source of support. I hope that my own attempts at support have been useful. I love the links, the videos, the stories that make me feel more like a normal mama than an outcast, which is generally how I feel in my part of the world. Hell, I've even made real life friends!
But nothing lasts forever.
I have a right to my opinion without being made to feel like that opinion is wrong. I have a right to my beliefs, and I have a right to happiness. No one is allowed to take that happiness away from me, and no one has the power to make me feel like my beliefs or opinions are less than what they are.
I feel like some cyber bullying is going on within this site. I'm not the only one that thinks so, and I'm sure I'm late to that observation. I won't be bullied, and I won't be in a room with a bully.
So I'm leaving Hip Mama after three years and twenty two weeks.
I might come back if the bullying stops. I've seen it happen to more than just a few people. But for the time being, I think I'll seek out a more accepting place where I am free to be the person I am without fear of retribution from those who believe their world view is the only valid one. A place where people don't use sarcasm to attack each other. A place where people respect each other, because all human beings deserve to be treated with respect.
Maybe that place doesn't exist, but I know one thing: it isn't here.
And the worst thing about bullies is they don't even see themselves as bullies! If you call them a bully, they will immediately become defensive and blame it on the victims. I know because I was horribly bullied in school and I know the pattern. Victim is bullied, victim accuses bully, bully becomes defensive and blames the victim.
I know I said once that I'm here and I'm never, ever leaving. But I spoke too soon. Sorry about that. Feel free to carry on the conversation amongst yourselves, I won't be joining in.