I got some action

shadeshaman's picture

Also some karaoke. Well, karaoke first, then action. Afterwards, the guy starts in with the "I can't make a commitment" routine, to which I reply, "I don't even know your middle name, what makes you think I want a commitment?"
I love being over 40.

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maggles's picture
Submitted by maggles on

Sorry- but I gotta say- so many men are jerks. It's like they might as well say "I get to have exactly what I want, what a man wants, but you get to request zero of what you want." I mean- seriously. When I was coming of age guys had to work more for sex. I'm not saying you wanted a commitment but I'm disgusted w/ how selfish they've become and feel in some ways how complicit we've become (esp the teen/young women I see) in that. LIke these young women come in- "well he really wants sex and I'm going on birth control pills for that but I wish he would text me once every three days..." I am so pissed about it. At least in my day (I'm mid 40s) they bought me dinner, brought me roses, told me I was beautiful, even held me for hours. They felt they had to show up for more of the feminine psychology to get laid. UGH. I realize this is off the point of what you wanted/needed I guess. But it's also disgusting on some level- their immediate defense/stonewalling of your emotional needs.

shadeshaman's picture

Golly!
All I was saying was that I LOVE having my shit together, not "needing" a man, or something from a man, not feeling guilty or shitty about having sex, not feeling like "if he doesn't call me, if he doesn't like me, then there's something wrong with me!", not feeling like dude's gonna toot it and boot it because I have kids, none of that.
The karaoke was fun, the sex was great, shopping for plants the next day with my friend was also fun, as was having dinner with my kid. I'm so relieved to be at a point in my life where I can fuck and not feel the need have a ridiculous overlay of romance.

"Mediocrity knows nothing higher than itself; but talent instantly recognizes genius"--Sir Arthur Conan Doyle

shadeshaman's picture

A nice "Congrats on gettin' your freak on!" was pretty much what I was hoping for.

"Mediocrity knows nothing higher than itself; but talent instantly recognizes genius"--Sir Arthur Conan Doyle

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Submitted by maggles on

Sorry if I insulted you in your feeling good about things, or didn't "get it." Great that you feel good about yourself. I think I was remembering a post from a couple weeks ago that talked about partnership/boyfriend and so I was recollecting that too, in my response. When I said "roses," by the way, I don't care about that, I don't even want that, but the young women I see would like more of their emotional needs met in a variety of ways that appeal to them, in their encounters, as would I. And it's never worked for me having sex with someone I didn't feel really emotionally connected to- but I shouldn't assume that's true for others. Guess I was putting what I want from men/sex on you. Sorry.