Here is a crazy situation and a crazier ideas in my head.
A woman I know in a neighboring town has two kids, girl and boy. They are both under 5. She says, often and in front of them, that she does not want to be their mother. She has a very hard time with them, yelling, complaining and saying awful things to them, about them and in front of them. Constantly. She threatens to abandon them
They are good kids.
She has offered them to me if I want them with a varying level of sincerity. I am tempted to do it.
How crazy is that? Very crazy. I have a little girl and a husband and a life of my own. Fairly low drama. This could only complicate things, that is, if she really means it. I am not sure if she would even really do it, but god... It kills me to watch her with those kids. Who knows what will happen with the boy, and the girl seems like the poster child for sexual abuse targets.
While she isn't burning them or chasing them with axes she would definitely be considered to be abusing them mentally and emotionally, and i believe physically too, though milder, by our state laws.
It makes me ill to think about their futures. My own family situation growing up was similar, so that is confusing too. I want to save them on one hand and on the other I want someone else to do it. I would love to be able to take them, but then I worry that it wouldn't work. The mom would change her mind or something. Then there is the work it would involve and the turmoil and such. And that seems small in comparison to their lives and well being. These kids are not safe. I doubt she would kill them outright, but they are not protected, they are not in seatbelts, they are not ok emotionally speaking.
I am not one to criticize other mothers. It is the hardest job on earth. On the other hand, if I showed up at work drunk, fucked my boss in the receeption area, shit on my desk and sprayed everyone with urine while hurling rocks at clients, I wouldn't have a job.