Friday night

maggles's picture

Hi Mamas,

Been lurking and following here. Thanks for being out there. I do miss yogini and Dragonchic. What happened to them?? Glad to see some of hte oldtimers though and also newcomers.

As a single mom with intregity I'm struggling with my single life, though not really my single MOTHER life, it's my when he goes to his dad's life. I want a break, I get to work, clean up, sleep, write, cook, garden create. But I am so deeply frustrated with lack of social opportunities. I hate the bar scene. I have done dating sites and pretty much hate them. And now after waiting patiently for the agreed upon Jan 1 date for my ex to reverse our weekends BACK to their original rotation after he switched them to accommodate my son's stepsister's father's desires (who is apparantly a controlling immovable tyrant) I was told said stepsister's father has refused. What this means is that I'm forced between enforcing what we agreed on and son missing out on being w/ his beloved stepsister who he needs to see OR being on the exact opposite schedule of ALL and I mean ALL of our single mom families. Where that leaves me is no single moms to go out w/ on the nights he's away because they are with their kids and no single moms/kids to do stuff with when he's here with me. I know- extend your community. Trying. But frustrating as I spent all summer setting up THIS little group only to lose it in Fall because of some jack ass stranger man's whim. I am so pissed sometimes at the lack of control in my life to A. Meet a REAL man who can be a strong true partner (I meet plenty w/ head of the ass who would like to join up ass backwards) B. Get a real social life going during my alone time w/out compromising myself to a bar scene of small talk situations that don't fill me up w hen I need it, after working and single mothering.

Don't get me wrong, I love my "alone time" but I don't like that it's forced- th at there are no other options right now t hat f eel really fulfilling.

Any ideas welcome.

Happy Friday- will toast you all w/ my cabernet. ANd that being alone w/ my own good company is WAY better than just using some guy as "filler," I don't need "Filler."

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mamanopajamas's picture

many hugs & much sympathy...

i wish i was moving in to my grandparent's house in L.A. if only to be in the same county as you, alas I am moving to San Bernado-- unless you are close enough to there?

i am sorry that the men of your son's extended family is being such a jerk & it is messing with your MUCH needed community. i think i'd be pretty peeved too

i am glad you are writing & i look forward to reading more ; )

 "Do not speak--unless it improves on silence." ~ buddhist saying (wow - my email on file was so old - it was from the old hipmama email!)

maggles's picture
Submitted by maggles on

Thank you Mamanopajamas for your kind support. Yes, if you are ever back in the area
would be good to connect!

mamanopajamas's picture

for about the next 6-9 months...with occasional periods in the Los Angeles area ( as in near downtown)

 "Do not speak--unless it improves on silence." ~ buddhist saying (wow - my email on file was so old - it was from the old hipmama email!)