Been lurking and following here. Thanks for being out there. I do miss yogini and Dragonchic. What happened to them?? Glad to see some of hte oldtimers though and also newcomers.
As a single mom with intregity I'm struggling with my single life, though not really my single MOTHER life, it's my when he goes to his dad's life. I want a break, I get to work, clean up, sleep, write, cook, garden create. But I am so deeply frustrated with lack of social opportunities. I hate the bar scene. I have done dating sites and pretty much hate them. And now after waiting patiently for the agreed upon Jan 1 date for my ex to reverse our weekends BACK to their original rotation after he switched them to accommodate my son's stepsister's father's desires (who is apparantly a controlling immovable tyrant) I was told said stepsister's father has refused. What this means is that I'm forced between enforcing what we agreed on and son missing out on being w/ his beloved stepsister who he needs to see OR being on the exact opposite schedule of ALL and I mean ALL of our single mom families. Where that leaves me is no single moms to go out w/ on the nights he's away because they are with their kids and no single moms/kids to do stuff with when he's here with me. I know- extend your community. Trying. But frustrating as I spent all summer setting up THIS little group only to lose it in Fall because of some jack ass stranger man's whim. I am so pissed sometimes at the lack of control in my life to A. Meet a REAL man who can be a strong true partner (I meet plenty w/ head of the ass who would like to join up ass backwards) B. Get a real social life going during my alone time w/out compromising myself to a bar scene of small talk situations that don't fill me up w hen I need it, after working and single mothering.
Don't get me wrong, I love my "alone time" but I don't like that it's forced- th at there are no other options right now t hat f eel really fulfilling.
Any ideas welcome.
Happy Friday- will toast you all w/ my cabernet. ANd that being alone w/ my own good company is WAY better than just using some guy as "filler," I don't need "Filler."