Dealn with BD

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So I wrote kind of a final letter to BD telling him I realize what an ass he was and that I am done and he really needs only to call and talk to the kids, I had talked to him on Friday and then began writing out all my feelings. He had said on friday well I'll call Monday he called saturday but i was out and did not return his call, I did call him today cuz he was suppose to be sending some Money of course he said he would send some Wed, then he said he got the letter. I said well I have to move on with my life and get over you, he still blames me saying I found someone else even though I had ended it with harold(you may know him as toxic man)and carl and i were suppose to be working this out, this was before my post mamas so i he started yelling and all and i was like there is no reason to yell anymore because i just don't care and i am not going to get upset, he was like i'll call later i said no you really only need to call every so often and talk to nessa cuz i don't need to talk to you every day and i'm trying to get over you and move on with my life. so he says so you guys are never coming back to milwaukee? WTF he doesn't even listen when we do talk i'll say something and then he'll ask me questions and i'll be like i JUST fucking told you that dumbass, i am letting some of my anger grow so i can harden my heart against him but it still hurts to know he is with someone else, i try not to think about it but when i lay down at night it still just hits me the loneliness, that fucking ache in my damn heart. fuck him for real he doesn't deserve me and never appreciated me sorry ass bastard i'm mostly just writing this to help me sort through it folks are awesome and my mom keeps waiting for me to break and let shit out but i am such a private person i don't want to do it in front of or with her, so i'll probably be posting a lot of this shit. i don't expect ya'll to read all of it or whatever but your more than welcome to my journey to betetr happier mama, woman, and life.


Enelesn's picture
Submitted by Enelesn on

Keep your chin up! And please, write - let all of that shit out of you. Even if you think it sounds dumb or doesn't make sense, just get it out!

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Submitted by dahlia on

He was going to send money to take care of his kids and then he got your letter and now he thinks he doesn't have to take care of his kids anymore?

I'm confused.


Sending love your way, sugar. You're on the right path.

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Submitted by denessasma on

no he just keeps saying he is going to send money an then always has a reason why he couldn't.

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind~~Dr.Seuss

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind~~Dr.Seuss

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Submitted by Monarda on

because I think you are amazing and i want to witness you reclaim yourself.