Ok question 2 for you...How do you view naps, both for the babes and for yourself?
Lately DH and I have been in disagreement on the subject. I feel strongly that DD stay on a fairly strict 2 a day nap schedule, and be in bed by 7 or 7:30 every night (Mostly, because if that does not happen I am the one stuck with the cranky baby, not him.) Not that I don't ever bend the rules and let her nap in the car, or go to bed a little late if we have something going on, but I try to limit how often that happens.
However, when it comes to myself or DH, I often burn the candle at both ends. I hate when he is home and takes a nap, or to take a nap myself when he is around. We don't get a lot of family, or couple time and I hate to waist it sleeping. Plus, I always feel like there are SO MANY other things I should be doing. He says that spending time together when we are both tired is pointless, because we are irritable and argumentative, and that sometimes you need to just take time to rest no mater how much there is to do. While I see his point, I just can't relax when I have a lot to get done. Lately, though I have been kind-a depressed. I have not been doing much for myself, or getting a lot of rest. I wonder if my lack of sleep is contributing to my mood. I know that sleep and depression are kind-of like the chicken or the egg. Am I tired because I am depressed or am I depressed because I am tired.
